Hello Anon2, 

Welcome to our forum. What a stressful time it must be for you. I can imagine this is spoiling the last few weeks of pregnancy for you and I am so sorry to hear you are having to go through this with all the covid stress too added to it. Try not to anticipate the worst or read anything into what the doctor told you at this stage or don't read anything into the fact that they offered you that cup of tea and biscuit and put you in the quiet room. I can imagine all this was a bit frightening and you will only know for sure what is going on once you get your results. Being at such a late stage of pregnancy, perhaps they also thought it was best for you to bring someone to your appointment. What unfortunate timing though that your appointment to get your results almost coincides with your due date. 

You did the right thing in getting this lump checked out when it started to become sore and it's great that they have been thorough and referred you quickly to the breast clinic. All you can do for now really is wait, and I really feel for you as it is probably no easy thing to do especially in the final weeks of pregnancy when mobility is often reduced and time seems to drag on while waiting for the baby's arrival. Try to focus if you can on the positive news of your baby's imminent arrival and on your cute little toddler and avoid looking anything up online as this will only bring you upset at a time when you need to be as relaxed as possible. Dr Google is famously unreliable anyway and only gives you the worst case scenario. Perhaps this is a good time to watch something nice and entertaining to pass the time. It won't be long now before you get your results and I am keeping everything crossed that it all turns out to be fine for you. Keep us updated if you get a moment on when you find out more. 

I hope that you will also hear from others who have been in a similar position before and that they will be along shortly to share their story with you. 

Sending you also positive vibes ahead of your baby's birth. I hope that it all goes well and smoothly for you and that despite these difficult circumstances you still manage to enjoy the last few days of pregnancy. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator 

Hi Lucie,

Thank you for your reply and support. It really means a lot. 
 

You are right that I have a lot to be thankful for and to focus on the present. It's hard not to jump to worst case scenario and I don't like it when I fee I don't have any control over the outcome.

I certainly do need to avoid Google. I looked at it for about 24hours and exhausted myself, so I feel like I have now got it out of my system.

I hope to chase the hospital next week to see if I can get an appointment sooner, although part of me doesn't want to know!

xx

Thanks so much Sarah.

it's reassuring to know if it's bad news that they will have already formulated a plan. 

I hope your treatment is going well and I'm sorry you have had to go through this at 38 with two sons.

If anything positive comes out of a diagnosis, it's not to take life for granted. I have already found myself making different decisions. 

Since the last appointment,  when my son wakes up early in the morning (like 5am) I just want to lie next to him and give him cuddles, rather than ask my husband to put him back to bed.

Thank you for taking the time to reply and wishing you all the best.

xx

Yes your so right, live life to the full!

 Thankyou my first treatment was okay. 
 

i hope it's good news when you get your results. The one big peice of advice is to make a couple of Friends on here at the same timeline as you! I made two friends we all had the same news at the same time and we now have a wattsapp group! They have been my Rocks as they know exactly how i feel. 
 

I am hoping you won't need to use this advice as a it could be a number of things so let's hope it's good news. 
 

love Sarah 

Thank you, I will keep a look out for people in the same situation as me.

It's great you have support from people who know how it feels.

x

I was just checking in to see how you are doing as I read your post the other evening but didn't have time to reply as we were having dinner with friends

When I had my biopsies taken on 22 Nov I wasn't given any indication as to what it could be although I knew in my gut it was cancer. I also had a look at the ultrasound and then compared then to google images which confirmed my gut feeling.  My results came back a week later and I had an appt booked for the week after that - 8 Dec where they told me that cancer was found in 2 out of the 3 lumps in my breast and in the one lump in my lymph node. I'm now impatiently waiting for my next appt. 

I'm 44 with 4 children (youngest being 4 in January) with no prior history. 

The nurse who was with me at the time of my results gave me the advice of try not to worry about it and just cross the bridge when you come to it and deal with it then. You've got 3 very good reasons to cross the bridge when the appt comes. Your husband, your 2 year old and the impending arrival of your beautiful baby. Try and focus your energy on them and not on the unknown. I know it's easily said than done. I have days when I don't think about it and what's to come and they are good days. 

We are here if you need us xx

I am very sorry you have received that diagnosis and wish you all the best in treatment.

I am very similar to you in that I looked at the ultrasound and then compared the images online, so I am going to prepare for the worst. My gut also seems to be saying the same thing to me.
 

it's a rollercoaster of emotions even in just the waiting, being upset, feeling so fragile and human, being worried about missing out, getting angry and then starting to accept that I might as well enjoy the day as I can't control anything now.

How was the appointment when they told you? Did they set up a treatment plan there and then?

Wishing you all the best for your next appointment x

That's what hubby said to me about not being able to control it and to just deal with it as and when each bit happens. 

The appt was weirdly ok because I knew what was going to be I just didn't know specifics. I had to go on my own as hubby was working that day and we hadn't told anyone else. I have stage 3 invasive ductal cancer in my left breast and 1 lymph node with is HER+ and ER-.

At that appt they advised that I'll be having surgery first (just waiting on my mri results which are looking at both the lumps in my breast and whether they are linked or not) before a decision is made between lumpectomy or a mastectomy with a full axillary clearance of the lymph nodes. Then I'll need having chemo because of my age followed by radiotherapy and Tamoxifen for at least 5 years. Which as a whole package is overwhelming but hopefully by just dealing with each bit will be more manageable. 

Currently I'm less emotional now because I know for definite although I can imagine with pregnancy hormones running rampant that won't be case for you. 

Keep us updated re baby and appt. Xx

Hi

Appointment has been brought forward by 8 days which is good, but it is now in the oncology outpatients department in a different building to where my first appointment was going to be. I guess this doesn't bode well either.

Hoping to avoid covid until then but a lot more people I know are getting it. If I have to self-isolate I would rather a virtual appointment rather than putting it off. I wonder if this is something they can do. 
 

My emotions are all over the place at the moment. Still find myself tearing up when I cuddle my 2 year old. Really worried about inflammatory breast cancer because my lump aches before I had the biopsy but is worse now.

x