Hello tourerginger

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's recent diagnosis of oesophageal cancer. It's obviously been an incredibly difficult time for you both and it's absolutely natural to be feeling as you've described in your post. It really isn't fair. 

Hopefully, by now you've heard from the team and the next steps have been discussed with your husband and you've both had some reassurance about what will happen. 

I wanted to let you know about this active thread on the forum. As you can see there are hundreds of posts, both from members who have been or are going through treatment for OC, along with quite a few partners of people who have been through diagnosis and treatment. I'd really encourage you to post a message on that thread. I'm sure some of our members such as [@Hilts]‍ [@dooggreg]‍ and [@RayB]‍ will respond to share their experiences with you both. 

I also wanted to let you know that we have a team of nurses that you can call to speak with. It can often help to talk things through with someone, and I'm sure they will be happy to offer any advice, information, and support that they can. If you'd like to chat with them they're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. 

Keep in touch tourerginger. There are lots of people in this community who have been through this diagnosis and treatment. Hopefully you'll be able to connect with them and find some support. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator