Hi, Sorry to find you in here asking for advice. It's a great place to get info and has helped me find some answers.

Ive had different but similar scenario with my mam- she's been treated for Parkinson's for a few years , and had lots of back pain and rib pin. Was told she needed to strengthen muscles so was sent to physio -anyways she was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer which had spread to ribs. And no one knew-she told several doctors she was in agony every day. My mam lasted 7 Weeks after her diagnosis. 

Symptoms can be masked by others -and alcohol consumption often is a contributing factor to lots of things

yellow skin can be a sign of a few things-liver / pancreas. Yellow skin is not always cancer tho-have they done tests and defo know it is? 
Is she well Enough for Surgery/ treatment? 
my mum wasn't given any treatment due to her already frialty. 
the doctors should discuss test results with your mam , and ask if you and your dad can be present.

Tests.results , treatment plan, they often have an idea of life expentancty ( not always accurate as they have my dad 2years and he lived for 8) 

My uncle was alcohol dependant -ate very little and had lost over 12stone. Huge deterioration seen in him over a 2year period. He didn't like visitors so I only saw him twice a year. But spoke every week on the phone. 
Weak couldn't stand etc. He was a tough cookie and lived 6months after a fall and broke marm( bone cancer. Liver ling etc )

All you can do is be there For your mam and to suport

Your dad too .

keep us posted.

Much love Efffie x

Sorry to about what your family has gone through too. 
 

mum had a blood test on Monday, that's all so far and won't have those results for a while.

im worried that she's had cancer for years and masked it with alcohol. The last 2 years, since we first went in lock down, mum has been drinking an insane amount of alcohol every day. 

this is why we all through her symptoms where alcohol related but now I think she was trying to mask them by drinking.

she's been unwell for about 3 years now, but the last month or so, she's just got worse and worse ... but this last week ... she's very poorly. Just sleeping all the time, in pain, not eating much, her stomach is huge and she says she can feel a huge lump in there.

I'm trying to stay positive but also realistic. With how unwell she is now, I just don't see how she'd be strong enough for treatment ... and what I've read about advanced cancer symptoms ... I don't think she'll be offered any.

how long do people usually have to wait till there are told more information?

Hi again. If they think it is ascites (looks like big pregnant tummy) and the doctors suspecting cancer then your mam should find things out within two weeks. 
she had bloods taken ?? As they are often a good marker of things too. 
Can you speak to your GP and ask for  home visit and see if they can put a care package in place. 
Locally we have a SPA -a helpline where you can get family asessed by nurse and a some help getting her dressed . Washed if she's too poorly to do it unaided.

Effie x

Hi, tests can take 2 weeks. Chase her results up after a week saying you are concerned. 
Ask for cancellations.

write down questions and ask your mum what she's thinking. Chat over things if she's wanting too. 

Efffie x