The wait

Hi I have Been recalled following mammogram and had scan and biopsy. 2 painful weeks wait. Consultant said prepare myself and don't plan anything but would not confirm cancer. I am keeping busy but days going so slowly just want to know. I am seeing surgeon on 9th. With all this I of course have convinced myself of the worst. Those who have had similar were you told so much or left unclear. Could it just be usual prep but they don't know? 
jay

  • Hi Jay, I know how you feel I found a lump on my left breast just over a month ago and after meeting a surgeon who did a fine needle biopsy on 11th August I was just told last Thursday that it is cancer, I'm devastated. I had a more detailed biopsy on 20th August but I've still not had my MRI, still waiting to be booked in and the wait is agonising. I just want to know exactly what stage it is etc. And what the plan is, I hate thinking it's in me and just want it gone. Sending positive love to you, whatever the outcome is we can do this, try to stay strong and remember that breast cancer is treatable and we will get through it xx 

  • Thanks so much for your reply. 
    I am convinced from what they say that I have cancer. 
    just want to know what I have to deal with. 
    as you say we will smash this just want to know what we are facing. 
    keep chatting. Good to not be alone. 
    trying to keep busy. 
    x

  • I went through the same at the end of July. I saw the breast surgeon a couple of weeks ago and was diagnosed with breast cancer. The radiologist referred to the lump as suspicious so I prepared myself for  the worst. To be honest it was a relief to just know after the two week wait. 

    The breast surgeon and team were brilliant. They took their time explaining the diagnosis and type of cancer I have. They emphasised that it was treatable but that until the lump was removed a full treatment plan wasn’t possible. I have a grade2 invasive  ductile carcinoma that is just under 3cm, there was no evidence of spread to lymph nodes but I will have sentinel lymph node biopsy to confirm this. The lump will be genetically screened to see if I will benefit from chemo but I will have radiotherapy anyway. It is estrogen positive but Herc negative so I have already started estrogen blockers.

    im now booked in for surgery two weeks today.Lots of appointments over the next two weeks to prepare for surgery and I’ve booked to have my hair coloured. 

    I attended screening mammogram  on 29/07/2021 so by mid September I will have had the tumour removed which for me is the first major step psychologically. 

    It has been a bit of a whirlwind but once the diagnosis is sorted things have moved quickly which means you don’t really have time to think about things. My son has kept me busy ferrying him to parties and sorting out suits for 6th form. 

    My advice is to go to your appointment preparing yourself for the worst so if it’s negative it will be a massive relief but if it’s positive you are able to take it all in and able to ask questions. Perhaps think about questions you may want ask. I wanted to know time frames and treatment possibilities so I could organise work. I am taking a fare bit of time off but as long as everything goes to plan I want to be able to return to work and normality. 

    I work in healthcare so meet a lot of woman who have been through breast cancer, including my sister. I have seen lots of positive outcomes but not everyone makes it. The hardest thing is telling your family and friends. I shared the news with my sisters and a couple of close friends initially while I processed it all, then when I was ready I told my teenage son. 

    I really hope the news is good for you, but if it isn’t you will be amazed by the strength you find within to get through it. I’m sure once I’ve got through the treatment it will hit me but I will deal with it then. For the time being I am facing it head on. 

  • Thank you so much for your reply. 
    this has really helped in my preparation for the diagnosis. 
    I am expecting the worst and each day I feel more ready for what I have to face. 
    I have only told one friend as until I know then no point in worrying everyone. 
    I am keeping busy as have 2 businesses and mentally preparing for things to move quickly. 
    I dread telling the kids but I know they will be brilliant. 
    they luckily are all in there 20's my daughter is a cancer nurse so i know she will be amazing but also too much knowledge can be dangerous. 
    I am just wishing days away at the moment so I can find out what I have to face. 
    wishing you all the love and luck as you move through your treatment. 
    jay x