Hello

It's all very scary I know , a lot to take in but go onto Facebook and join Breast cancer support ( Uk ) omg it's been truly amazing for me and inspirational , everyone on there supports each other so join it today 

Sending you support amd love and you are not on your own xx

Thanks, I will.

Hi firstly I'm sorry that you have to face the situation your in by yourself, especially when you have family. Im a 76 year old man, so age wise I know exactly where you are. Regarding your diagnosis of breast Cancer. Firstly you must stay positive, this is crucial to the outcome of any illness. I have had bowel cancer twice and have had the large bowel all but removed entirely. Luckily I dont have a colostomy bag. This was in 2016, at the same time as the second Cancer was found, It was determined that I needed a double heart bypass. Also during the investigations I was diagnosed with Barrett's easophegus which is changing cells caused by heart burn. I remained positive throughout, and thought little about my condition. I'm. not sure if I'm different to many people. But I see illness as just another obstacle to overcome in this mortal life. About ten years ago I also had a stroke, which I was able to recover from. My message to you is, gain faith, be strong in the face of these challenges. Of course it's awful to think you have cancer, but with courage and fortitude miricals can happen. This year is five years since my two Cancer ops. I remember a guy in the same ward as me, standing by his bed, saying I hear you only live five years after bowel cancer. To be honest, I didn't think anything of it.  As this is my fifth year I'm pleased to say I'm still hear, still enjoying working on property etc. About three months ago I had a kidney pain, so much so that I took myself to Southampton General A&E. they checked me over, and found nothing, I heard the young Dr talking on the phone to a more senior person about me, as I heard my name mentioned. After the call the young Dr returned to the cubicle where I was perched on the edge of those beds they have. I think we should give you a CT scan he said, as with the amount of cancer you've  had, we need to check for a mass. Ok, I said. At that point I had no worries whatsoever. I had the scan and returned home driving myself. By the way, I have a wife of 55 years, but do all of my appointments etc alone, that is apart from being dropped off, I prefer facing these things alone. I find it hard to accept sympathy or over concerned people. In fact I find it distracting. I guess it's because I'm so positive that I see to much sympathy or over concern, as a breach of my focus. Obviously family care as do friends. But during diagnosis and initial treatments you want positive people around. I know it may sound cruel or uncaring, but I prefere people not to ask how are you, you'll be ok, don't worry. Though it's only natural for people to do and say these things as they care and love you so much. The next morning after having the CT scan the after before, I had a call from A&E, a young female Dr this time, said, just wanted to let you know the results of the scan, ok, I said, you have a kidney stone, and also we've found a nodule in you right lung. Ok, I said. She said you'll hear from someone soon. Well, about two weeks later I had another CT scan, followed by a PET basically a scan used to detect Cancer by using a radio active tracer mixed with glucose. Apparently Cancer cells loves glucose and reacts with the tracer, and almost glows revealing itself a Cancer. Well after another CT scan the nodule was getting smaller, which was good news. I had a call from a registrar who ran through the latest, saying the nodule has almost disappeared. I said ok that's good. 
I then had another CT scan, a week later I was called by a Consultant, hello he said, you spoke to my colleague week or so ago, yes, I said. Well he said good news and not so good news, Ok, I said, well the nodule at the lower part of your right lung has gone, which is good, but, you have another one at the apex of your right lung. Ok, I said. You've been here before he said. I said to be honest, I don't even think about, but just go on with life. He said you need a PET scan, it's in a very difficult place, you'll need surgery If we need a biopsy. I was not worried at this point, as I've had lots of major surgery, including an Ulna nerve reattachment 
which I severed, I slipped on a wet floor after using a Hot Tub. I landed on my back door threshold, and the little weather bar there to prevent water coming in, went in between the bones in my elbow, the funny bone and cut the nerve. It's never recovered. 
so I had the PET scan last week, the Drs had a discussion and I've been given an appointment for Tuesday next week with a consultant, also I have to have a breathing test first. If it is Cancer, is it curable, will I survive. I've no Idea. But I'm positive, I do what I have to do every day, I look after a 70 year older friend,I'm active in mind and body. I have faith in other peoples faith. I know that many people pray for my health which I'm grateful for As I know it helps us all. My message then to you right now, is get out of your house every day, go to places where there's lots going on. Meet with positive people, stay away from places and people who bring feeling of depression, or negative memories. Think of your partner you lost after 20 years, and that you'll be together again one day. Don't expect to much from others, you'll be disappointed. Exercise, your 76 my wife is also and is pretty active in most things. I think having an active mind and body is a way to heal ones self. Isolation is a very bad thing for ones mental and physical health. So get out as much as you can. Get plenty of natural daylight into you Eyes to illuminate you mind. It helps. Well I'm sure that you will get the best treatment possible, be positive enjoy the fact that you are blessed like me, to even be getting such care and attention. If we had our way, we would prevent all sickness and even prevent our loved ones from passing, but that's not how it's meant to be. If we couldn't experience sickness we wouldn't know how wonderful it is to be well. I guess it's all hear for our experience and learning. My thoughts are with all people who suffer from this type of Illness. I have lost my Mother and Gradmother to Cancer maybe that's why I've contracted it so much. But we keep moving forward, we have to. Being concerned is good. Being worried is not, worry brings one to have, reoccurring though, which can become obsessive and all consuming. So don't let that happen. When you wake up each morning, don't let your health issue dominate your thoughts. Just get up, and get outside. and think of something good, ask your kids how they are doing, tell them your ok, don't worry about me. How's the grandkids doing. Don't get upset, control your emotions. It can be difficult at times,  but you have to master your thoughts. Listen to your favourite music. Though not ones that make you sad. Well I'm looking forward to Tuesday to hear what's going on. If it's Cancer well there you are. I have to get on with it. To be honest I'm to busy as a property investor dealing with crazy tenants etc to worry about it. Of course If I get really Ill then I'll have take something or end up bed ridden. But until that day comes, I'm moving forward. I want you to do the same.

speak soon - John 

Thank you. You have gone through so much, I admire your resilience and hope you have a good outcome from your recent tests. I will try and be positive, though it is difficult.