Hello pruss

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mother in law's diagnosis. It sounds as if it's come as a great shock to you all.

It's not uncommon for people to decline treatment and to enjoy whatever time they have and it's good to know that at this point she's feeling fit and well and able to enjoy doing the things that she wants to do. 

It's impossible to say how things may progress for your Mother in law and it's understandable that you feel in limbo at the moment. I don't know how/what your Mother in law may feel about giving permission to a family member for them to speak with her GP or the hospital so that you can get a little information and guidance, particularly about what practical support may be available, to help you prepare for the coming weeks and months. You might also like to have a look at the information we have on our website about living with secondary breast cancer. 

I'd also recommend getting in touch with one of our team of nruses. I know that they will be able to help with information, advice, and support. If you'd like to chat with them they're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. 

I hope this helps. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Hello Pruss

Just be aware that they won't be able to give you any information without your Mother in law's permission so you may want to chat with her and then check with the GP if they are happy for verbal consent over the phone or if they need something in writing. 

I do hope that you can find the answers and support that you need. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator