Hi Macha101,

Welcome to Cancer Chat. Firstly I'm very sorry to hear about the situation with this person.

It sounds as if she and you are still waiting to find out all the information about this, so once you get that then you will hopefully have a better idea of what to expect. It's always best to speak to the person's doctor/specialist for this, as answers on Google can be quite general.

It is a little cliched but try to take things a day at a time, wait to see the situation, and then you'll hopefully have a better idea of how to support her - while of course also looking after yourself.

Hopefully this forum can offer some support to you as well, as I'm sure there will be others here who have been through or are going through something similar.

Wishing you all the best,

Ben
Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Ben,
 

Thanks for your reply....you're right it's still early days and chemo and radiation has just started.
 

The doctors have rightly said not to look at Google but I did anyway. They said the cancer had spread to the lungs, was a type of cancer that was more common in black/pre-menopausal women and had a genetic component (yet to be confirmed if the BRCA gene is present) so I know it has to be either stage IV inflammatory breast cancer or TNBC. But I am keeping my learnings to myself and letting the medical professionals guide us.
 

This person was like a mother to me. She looked after me since I was six weeks old when my own biological mother got sick and subsequently died of BC many years ago. I don't want to say she is my mother but that is how I view her...
 

I am just reaching out in the hope of hearing some positive stories of others who have faced this diagnosis.

Thank you for your advice Ben.