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Hello everyone my name is Shelly I am 42 years old my husband of 43 was diagnosed with rectum cancer 2 weeks ago which I am sure our whole world fell apart we have two kids aged 12 and 18 .. he had suffers symptoms for average about a year runny poo and about just about 2 half weeks ago he called me and the was loads of blood in toilet he went to doctor and we got the colonoscopy very quick as I friend of mine works in that department inam from Ireland by the way .. I was called in with him after and told that they found a rectal tumour 3cm from the bottom of anal verge .. had mri few days later then app with consultant the next day she was hoping results were there but unfortunate not .. she showed us a picture of the liver which look pretty healthy to me but hey I am no doctor ‍⚕️ there was a tiny we think on the tip of the liver as she said so she organised a scam of the liver few days later which he had on Thursday he has the last of scans mri of pelvis rectum . The first scan was of thorax abdomen with contrast what ever that means there are checking to see if it spread through bowl wall and lymphnods and  hopefully not also liver and lungs .. we're the tumour is it is in an awkward position and therefore noT looking very hopeful to join the tubes Bk together there for colostomy bag will be in place .. the MDT did not meet yet as consultant is on holidays and I presume wait till all scans back.. she said he will go for radiotherapy for 6 weeks Monday to Friday to shrink the tumor then some chemo then operation I feel so lost can only imagine my husband he is a very positive mam always had been from the 25 years we together we childhood sweethearts can someone maybe give me some advise   Tank you xx

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    Hi Shellydo,

    I'm really sorry to hear what you and your husband are going through, it sounds like such a shock and with a lot of information to take in. It sounds like they have given you both an idea of what treatment lies ahead. The hospitals are usually good at giving you both all the information you may need / require going forwards. I'd always say not to be afraid to call them as well if anythingdoesn't make sense or you want clarificiation on anything. 

    As you may find most people on these forums say the waiting for results is often very challenging and I hope the results go as well as they can for you. 

    This time can usually be a bit of a whirlwind. I'm not sure how helpful I can be in terms of advice. I'm mid way through chemotherapy then due to have surgery and possibly radiotherapy. It's a challenging journey but manageable. You say your husband is a very positive man which may serve him well during this time. There's no right or wrong way of dealing with things for anyone and it's to be expected you both may go through a whole range of emotions which are all OK. 

    The forums here are a good place to chat, vent or share similar experinces with others. 

    Wishing you the best. 

     

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    Hi shelly , sorry to hear about your husband , i too was diagnosed with rectal cancer in december at 39 im now 40 , my tumor had gone through to the other side of my bowel wall , but luckily no further , mine was about 10cm from the anus , i was also told about needing radio and chemo but after a while was decided i would just go for surgery , luckily they got all mine out then, i had a stoma bag on for 4 months then had it reversed around 6 weeks ago , its all scary to start but it does get better , its the waiting thats a pain, i was exactly 2 months from diagnosis to surgery , ive been left with some big scars from my breast bone to my pubic hair , the stoma bag itself wasnt to bad to get used to , theres a facebook group called colostomy uk support group where there is lots of people going through thd same thing so maybe join that for advice , hope all goes well 

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