Hi there

I am so sorry for you and your family having to go through this. My Mum was suddenly admitted to hospital pretty much a year ago. She was in hospital for a month and was able to continue treatment while staying at home from then on.

I lived ab 8h drive from home. Once I found out it was cancer I dropped everything and stayed with her for 2 weeks. I moved back home permanently 6 weeks later.

I still remember thinking all those scary thoughts, that must be rushing through your head now. There are many steps to come, but for now just concentrate on what your mum needs or wants right now. Try to make sure that someone is with her when she sees the doctor. It can become really difficult to take things in so 4 or 6 ears are better than 2. You or another family member may want to speak to the doctor without your mum. I had some questions that I did not want my mum to hear me ask.

Once the plan is set you will then go through various different stages depending on treatment on physical health. 

While in hospital my mum wanted a specific brand of ice cream every day, so that is what we got her. You just have to go with it. It's hard and I felt the same way when we got the diagnosis. I tried to cry as little as possible in front of my mum so she wouldn't be scared. Otherwise I just let it out in the shower, the car, wherever I felt like it. Don't bottle things up and talk to your dad when you feel that the time is right 

Take care x