Hi trucker79,

Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm really sorry to hear of the situation with your partner. I can only imagine how incredibly tough this must be and the difficulty you must be in to be going through this and trying to keep strong.

You're in a tough position and it's really important that you try to look after and support yourself as well as your partner. I'm not sure if you have others around you who you can speak to about this, but do try to reach out to friends and family where possible as talking to others often helps. Chatting to others on forums like this one or the online community run by Sue Ryder can help a lot, especially in the evenings when nobody else is around.

Anticipatory grief isn’t unusual in your situation and there is some very helpful information on both the Marie Curie website and CRUSE website. In addition there is a charity called The Good Grief Trust which has a lot of useful content to help both you and your partner cope during this very difficult time plus a very comprehensive list of support services and helplines which you may want to keep to hand. Do speak to your GP and let them know how you are feeling, they can help you and ensure you get the right support as and when you need it.

For now, try to take things a day at a time - or an hour at a time if it helps. Do also use this forum as much as is helpful - it can be a safe space to write things down and to reach out to others who understand. Hopefully you'll receive further replies to your post soon.

Take care and wishing you all the best,

Ben
Cancer Chat Moderator