I hope your son's sort out their differences. What their mum is going through now should be enough to do that.

Obviously I don't know you, but on this site you are not alone there are some lovely people on here as I've found out.

Best wishes to you, and a virtual hug too x

Hi

I'm so sorry to read your post that mot only are you dealing with breast cancer.

As your sons are adults is there someone close that can contact them and explain you cannot be there go between they need to sort things themselves you have enough on your mind and need all your strength to get through this.

I do hope they work it out for your sake.

Wishing you all the best 

Xxx

Thankyou so much for your response. At 38 and 44 you would think that should know how to behave like adults!

Well they are both in for a shock tonight. I've just been told my surgery has to be delayed. I need further investigations, for sleep apnea and for coronary artery disease (2.5 of the arteries are diseased) i don't know if they will appreciate the seriousness of this situation, I'll just have to wait and see! . 

Thankyou so much for your response. At 38 and 44 you would think that should know how to behave like adults!

Well they are both in for a shock tonight. I've just been told my surgery has to be delayed. I need further investigations, for sleep apnea and for coronary artery disease (2.5 of the arteries are diseased) i don't know if they will appreciate the seriousness of this situation, I'll just have to wait and see! . ️

Oh you poor thing, what selfish sons to put themselves first and you second. I have no idea what the answer is but tell them straight that if they can't behave well then don't bother to moan at you.  I'm afraid it's going to be tough love to get you through this without coping with their squabbles.  My husband has stage 4 lung cancer and my daughter lives hundreds of miles away so I coped 24/7 with everything. She came home for three days and said I was making mountains out of molehills over something her Dad had said.  I told her to go away and leave me alone as she had no idea what I was coping with. I've never seen her looked so shocked as we'd never been like that. We're three years on now and she never spoke to me like that again.  Stand up for yourself, put you first and if they want to play silly buggers, let them!  Good luck with the treatments. Carol x

Sorry to hear you've got further tests first totally agree with Dor06 your just going to have to say grow up and go until you can put someone else first. You need all your strength to get through this not their petty selfishne. 

Hope tonight goes OK, keep us updated. 

Louise xx

Thankyou Carol, it's so sad our children don't seem to understand that family is about caring and nurturing each other. I card for my mum for 4 years after major heart surgery and it was hard work but I didn't think twice, she was my mum,

I told one of my sons last night that my surgery is delayed for further heart investigations and I told him I honestly feel I won't survive this. He has changed his attitude a little, but I'm concentrating on me now. Good luck and Gods Blessing on your current situation xxx

Thankyou louise xx

There have been developments. I have to have an angiogram to check if it is safe to have a GA.

I have chronic cardiovascular disease in two and half of my arteries.  And sleep apnea which the anesthetist is not to happy about. So I've told my sons and also told them I genuinely don't think I'll survive all this. Its not hysterics on my part but looking at family history.

It's up to them now to grow up but I need to concentrate on myself. Fortunately i do have a couple of good friends. Xx

Thankyou Peakay

Things have taken a bit of a downward movement. The anesthetist is concerned about my heart and sleep apnea. I'm waiting for an  emergency appointment for an angiogram.

I am scared witless and told my sons this. Because of family history I really feel i won't survive all this and I've also said that to my sons.  I will try and keep fighting, just wish those two idiots would  wake up and see what's going on!!!! Xxx