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Initial breast cancer diagnosis at 37

NJP2021
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Hi all,

 

Ive just been given the initial diagnosis of breast cancer, although they're awaiting the biopsy and fine needle results after finding a large lump in my breast. 

 

I'm in total shock. I'm a fit and healthy person of 37.i have 2 young children under 5 who I went through hell for them via ivf. Now I'm terrified that I might not get to see my precious babies grow up.

Im awaiting a panel meeting on Thursday to find out what stage I'm at and how they're going to treat me.

The lump in my breast has suddenly grown exponentially and retracted my nipple etc but I just assumed it would be a cyst. I'm in total shock. They suspect it may have spread to my lymph nodes too. Heartbreaking. I just wish I'd been seen 5 weeks ago but I kept thinking it was hormones or exercise that was to blame. I have a mirena coil and often blamed that for my hard breasts.

Im worried about other symptoms I've suffered with over last 8 months now, like dizziness and vit d deficiency and a salt taste in my mouth. I've been docs for them but have always found they've tested and prescribed appropriately. I've felt tired but who wouldn't working 2 jobs with 2 young kids and a full exercise regime.  I'm worried that I've had it way longer and it's had time to get real deep. 

 

I am in limbo until Thursday and can't help thinking the worst. I keep looking at my kids and feel totally overwhelmed about the possibility I might not see them grow up. 

I'm looking for people that I can talk to and for advice on what to ask at the panel meeting with regards to treatment and prognosis. I'm not ready to give up my life :( 

Any support and advice would be greatly appreciated. 

 

 

 

 

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    Hi,

         I can't offer much advice at the mo other than to say I know how you feel i'm 38 and went for my refferal appointment for my lump on thursday, on the can they found one of my lymph nodes was enlarged as well, I had biopsys of both and the results are due on Friday, however the consultant basically said on thursday that given my age and its size he's certain its cancer, I now have a full body CT scheduled for tomorrow and my mind is all over the place with the speed its all moving at you can only think the worst.

     

    I'm here if you want vent or scream, i've been through every emotion since thursday. 

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    Hi, let's chat please. We seem to be stuck in a similar nightmare! I'm only just beginning my emotional roller-coaster and the waiting to find out is the worst part. Too much time to imagine the unimaginable. 

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    I know, I've still only told a handful of people, telling my Mum was the hardest she was upset I hadn't told her sooner, my boss knows as I've needed time off for appointments but I don't know if or when to tell the rest of colleagues and my family, I'm probably going to wait until after the biopsy results so I know where I stand on that front.

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    I'm exactly the same. I'm going to wait until Thursday to find out the pathway and some of the answers to the questions that will inevitably be asked.

     

    Telling my mum was the hardest thing too weirdly. 

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    I'm not sure when I'll find out the pathway, he seemed concerned about the size of the lump and my age and said something about further tests after the biopsy results, so that will be more waiting around imagining the worst.

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