How do I deal with this anxiety after diagnosis

I'm 26 but ever since i did a breast scan and the result reported 'quite suspicious' lumps , I felt like I added 14yrs.

A biopsy was requested and the  histopathology report showed "invasive ductal carcinoma;NOS;SBR grade1, score 5/9" , although no lymphovascular invasion was seen, the surgical margins show tumor infiltrate in areas...  Since I received this result I've not been sleeping well or doing anything well ;I've been having constant headache and general mental stress.

Would meet with my doctor on Thursday, but Thursday now looks like a whole millennium, a part of me feels I'm unnecessary getting myself worked up but I can't help it.

I just wonder how others manage to worry less in same situation

  • Hi [@Gifty]‍ 

    Sorry to hear at such a young age you are facing this, I really hope you have some support around you.

    Worry is really part of this picture and the waiting around is stressful and if you have anxiety this just esculates everything. I wish I could say there was a quick fix but there isn't. 

    I remember sleep! it feels a lifetime away now. I can even dread going to bed some nights as I just know it is going to be an awful night, pain, tossing and turning, horrendous vivid dreams or staying awake for hours while my mind runs away with itself.

    When you have the information from the doctors it does become a little easier, but that time of unknowing and wondering is the worse part of it.

    I also was diagnosed with Invasive Cancer and in surgery they removed the IDC and DCIS that they saw whilst in they were faffing around in there. Every step of the way they were helpful, took the time to talk to me through all options and plans. So that side of it is good. But of course it doesn't take away from all the waiting time that you are left in Limbo. Even now 7 months on I still have no motivation, sleep is still disturbed and I feel I have aged 20 years, so I do understand how your feeling. Everyone deals with it differently and copes differently and hopefully Thursday will give you the answers so your not sat in Limbo. it is OK to worry and natural to do so. At least that way you are prepared for bad news and even more relieved with good news. 

    I'm sorry to say that I am still feeling anxious as that is not what you want to hear, you want to hear how not to feel anxious. It may go to the back of your mind for a few moments, then snaps back to the forefront when your trying not to think about it. But try to take comfort in the amount of members on here that have been what your now going through and still here to reply and give you hope that this maybe a bad time for you, a time that you have to go through some rough times, but there is a way through it.

    Good Luck for Thursday and I hope you come back and let us know how you get on.

  • This sounds very similar. I had my op last week and I will get my results back on Thursday. It is all so worry. The waiting seems the worst bit, and the anxiety. To all of you in the same situation I send out strength! It's so hard! 

  • Thanks for your time and response.

    I've cried but I've decided to stop, come to realise that tears won't change the situation.

    It's unfortunate, but mastectomy has been recommended and chemo would follow.

    I ve relayed my fear of possible complications to the doctor, but he was positive... considering the fact that its early. 

  • I'm in a similar situation, I'm 29 and have recently been diagnosed with Breast Cancer, I had really bad anxiety at first and panic attacks until I swapped my breast care nurse, my new one completely gets me. She answers all my questions so I know exactly what's going on , she lets me email her/call whenever and always responds the same day and I just feel she treats me as a person and not a patient or statistic like my previous BC nurse, without her I wouldn't of got this far. I still have a long way to go! 
    This for me helped my anxiety and made me feel more in control because before I felt like everything was being sprung on me but she prepares me before it happens and talks through everything and every outcome good or bad before it happens. I like to know everything that's going on even to the smallest detail of who's going to be in the room. 
     

    Good luck with everything & take care x ️
    x