Hi [@EmJ8263]‍ 

Sorry to hear about your Grandad's diagnosis, it is never easy and unfortunately there are no hard and fast answers on how to deal with the emotional rollercoaster.

When my Nan was diagnosed with Lung Cancer which had spread to other parts, we knew that there was not a lot that could be done for her, it was just about dealing with the grief in the best way possible at the time whilst trying to spend as much time with her and makng her comfortable. Making sure that she had a say in what was going to happen to her. She made it very clear that she did not want to go into hospice care at any point, she wanted to stay at home, even when it looked like the docotrs wanted to move her to hospice care, it was about standing up for her and her wishes, they were than able to treat her at home. The Macmillan nurses are on hand to help.

It is all a very daunting prospect and even if you are very young, there is still support for you too, so don't be afraid to ask.

I still can't watch the Royle Family Christmas edition where Nana dies...... 

When I was diagnosed with Cancer, my daughter who is in her 20's didn't deal with it very well, she didn't want to talk about it, or want to know any of the details she just wanted to ignore it. Thankfully she was able to talk to friends and her paternal grandmother, so although she couldn't talk to me about it she still did.

You grandad will be given a really good team of Doctors and nurses who will discuss everything with him and talk about plans, this information may not trickle down to you, I always feel it is easier to understand what is going on if you have all the information. WIth my Nan I didn't have the information so it scared me more, not knowing what was going on, but with my diagnosis getting all that information it makes it easier to deal with.

It is going to hurt..... it is going to be emotional... this is a given. Just try and spend some good quality time with him and enjoy it, make some lovely memories with him now so that you can look back on this time with fondness and not fear.

Take care xx