[@Bettybooby]‍ Hi Betty, I’m so sorry to read of your diagnosis, it must have been a dreadful shock. I was diagnosed with it the week before Christmas, I felt like the consultant was talking to someone else, it was a very weird experience, then it hit me like a train a wee while later. We all struggle in one way or another I’m sure, though of course I can only speak for myself. I’ve had surgery, and am now part way through chemo, I thought I wouldn’t cope, but you will be utterly amazed as the weeks and months go on, by the resilience and strength your mind and body provide you with, you’ve got this Betty, and you WILL get through it as sure as today is Saturday. What I would do in your shoes is search your particular type of cancer by going on to cancer chat and putting in the name of it (mine being invasive ductal carcinoma Her2 cancer), it will lead you to other ladies (or men, although it is much rarer in men they do get certain types of breast cancer), you will be able to read about their treatment paths and join in with chat, get helpful tips etc, there are so many different types of breast cancer, it is best just to stick with what is relevant to you and your type of cancer, or it can be a bit overwhelming. I wish you all the very best moving forwards, there will be brighter days ahead again, as you gain acceptance and start to progress through the treatment. We are lucky to be living in the present day where breast cancer treatment has moved on astonishingly, and the prognosis has never been better for us. Sending you a big hug. If there’s anything you want to know just put in the @ icon and the posters name and they will get an email alert, there are some truly inspirational, kind and lovely people here Betty, they were here for me, and they’ll be here for you too - Including me. Lyn. XX

I was diagnoised this week with the same and am feeling exactly like you, terrified.. I don't feel like myself, feel trapped and tearful.. Everyone says one step at a time which is easier said than done. I don't have any words to help, but you are not alone. xx

[@yorkiegal]‍ 

Thank you so much for taking the time to send that. I was so anxious last night and just sent that message in a complete panic. Feeling a little bit better this morning and I can't tell you how much your message has helped! I'm going to keep reading it when I feel panicky! I am freaking out about chemo etc but haven't started yet and hearing from someone who is at that stage helps so so much. I really hope you're doing ok and thanks so much again for your positive post!xx

[@surreygal]‍ 

I'm so sorry that you're in the same situation. It's just so much for our brains to take in. I think I'm still at the "why me" stage and just find it all so unfair but as the days go on I'm getting stronger and trying to be more positive. Last night I just completely freaked out. I can tell that this forum will be good for us. Let's keep chatting on here. We WILL get through this!x

I'm exactly the same! I'm just 40 and feel fit and totally fine. Everyone here must feel exactly the same :( It's so hard to process everything! 

We've got this!!x

[@Bettybooby]‍ Hi, you’re welcome. You see, someone else has joined you already! I have chemo 3 of 6 this coming week, yes the side effects aren’t a picninc, but the chemo unit will give you meds for anti nausea etc at each visit to make life much easier. Take things a day at a time, it’s less scary that way, enjoy spending the time with your son, do things that make you happy, like going for a walk or to the park or whatever. So, you’re off and running on “cancer chat” and now it’s less scary and will remain so............see, you've got this Betty! Lyn. XX

I was diagnosed endometrial 4 weeks ago, be fear and anxiety huge, I go from I can do this into omg I’m gonna die, never 2 days the same, i went from talking to all my friends about it i to please don’t message me Cos can’t handle talking. I am permanently in a state of fear I have oncologist 30th hoping maybe he can put my panic in order. Diagnosis is the scariest place to be but I’m on support groups and they. Assure me it will get better with time. No one can tell you will be ok and don’t panic but there are people that you can talk to that will help aid peace of mind