Mum diagnosed with grade 4 brain tumour

Hi,

my beautiful brave mum finally got her results today after a 5 week stay in one hospital and then a 3 day stay at kings college where she had her biopsy

she was told that her tumour is a grade 4 tumour. I think they said lymphoma. It's also only in the brain so primary brain lymphoma? Either way we're all devasted. She has been through so much in her life including a 22 year relationship that was mentally and physically abusive. Shes with someone else, has finally got the happiness she deserves and then this happens.

it's heart breaking. She has only just turned 50 too. Even after being told this she's so optimistic saying "I'm not going anywhere." And "I'll beat this." The specialist said that it's been caught early and it's not life threatening right now so hoping that when she starts radiotherapy and chemotherapy that she will get better. Her tumour caused the affects of a stroke so at the moment one side of her body is temporarily paralysed basically. My mum and I are so close. I've always said she is my soulmate. How do I even begin to process this? And how do I comfort my mum in such a horrible time? I feel useless right now.

  • Sorry to read about your mum. She sounds very much like me I have crap history but am with a fab guy now. Sadly my mum passed away January, then my daughter got made redundant and mid March I got diagnosed with breast cancer I'm 55. 

    My daughter and I are best mates but she found the news extremely difficult whilst I was I'm ok ive got this. From our experience just be open and honest with her. Dont hide your tears or fears. Chat about everything and anything and like I told both my daughter and son even though I'm going through this I'm still here for you no matter what so don't think you can't tell me something. I'm sure your mum feels exactly the same. 

    Hope this helps a bit xx

     

  • Thank you for your comment. So sorry you're going through it. After posting this I went to see my mum and we've had a nice long chat. She told me to be open and honest and talk to her about everything. Not to keep quiet incase i upset her. I can't believe how well she's taking it. She's like yeah I'm gonna kick cancers ***. She's so bloody amazing. But thank you again for replying xx