90% sure it’s cancer

I'm looking for some help/advice/hints/tips anything really. My mum hasn't been the best the last year and it kept being put down to long covid (they're still not 100% she had it but her symptoms were pointing to long covid). Anyway Wednesday she was taken into hospital with fluid around the lungs, her stomach was really bloated she's loads about 1 and a half stone in this last year and now the doctors have told her they're 90% sure it's cancer (of the stomach I think). Her liver and spleen are enlarged too. She's having a bone marrow biopsy on Monday and then wed they're checking a lump on her neck. I'm going into see her Monday and I'm pretty sure that's when they're going to confirm the worst. I'm treating to hold it together for my dad and 2 younger bruthers (I'm 35 and they're 33&23) my dad is lost without her being home and I'm trying to be strong but behind closed doors I'm breaking down, trying to hold it together for my own children (11&9) and I don't know how I'm going to Do it all. I've been Googling and I know I shouldn't have but it's looking pretty bleak from what I can see. Any fed back would be welcome. Thank you and sorry for rambling x

  • Hi,

    So sorry to hear about the current situation you are in. Firstly what I'd like to say is that I know nothing at All about stomach cancer.

    I am however fighting breast cancer and was only diagnosed about 5 weeks ago.

    One bit of advice I would give is try and stay away from Google. My initial instinct upon diagnosis was to see what Google said and it didn't make for nice reading. All it done was add 2 the worry and give me more scenarios to run through my head.

    What I would say is if you think of any questions between now and Monday even if they seem trivial to you write them down and take them to any appointments you go to with your mum. I found when I was in with the consultants I didn't ask anything as they were giving me results, info etc and speaking in medical terminology. I was trying my best to take in the words but all I could honestly hear was cancer. It wasn't until I got home I wished i had asked more.

    Currently I am doing OK. Had surgery yesterday and I am awaiting further results to see what's in store ie chemo, radio, hormone therapy.

    People On here can be so helpful and hopefully someone sees your post who maybe knows more about treatments for stomach cancer and they can be of support to you. They will tell you more than Google ever could. 

    Wish you mum all the best of luck on her journey and take care of yourself too x