Just been diagnosed with breast cancer

Hey I've just found out that I have breast cancer and maybe it's also in my lungs. I've got agoraphobia and haven't been outside in 12 years. About 2 years ago I found a lump, I convinced myself it was a cyst due to my agoraphobia as I couldn't leave my home. It got to the point where I was hiding it from my partner as the skin bruised and there is a lump like a golf ball sticking out and it weeps. He knew something was off but I just shut him out. About a month ago I lent forward and it burst and started bleeding so I got rushed into hospital. After having a biopsy, ct and pet scan I now know its cancer and I'm absolutely terrified. I'm only 29 so breast cancer was not something I was letting myself think about. I'm due to start chemotherapy next week and I really have no clue what to expect. Ino they are not operating yet and they are trying to shrink it first and are going from there. I'm just wondering is there anyone on here who knows of any tips to help me through? I don't want to Google and freak myself out as I'm m freaked enough and I haven't got anyone in life who I can talk to about it. Sorry for rambling on I'm just after some help/tips to help along as I panic when there and when the nurses and doctors talk I just blank out which isn't good.

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  • Hi Tashaa21

    First off agrophobia is difficult enough on it's own, credt to you for coping. Me- BC in 2016, mastectomy. and chemo. Panic is understandible, the worst thing about chemo for me was  a bad taste in the mouth which made eating a chore. Hair loss was mitigated a little by the cold cap, then there's the   tedium - take something to occupy yourself.

     I'm sure your chemo nurses will have helped many with anxiety and phobias  before, do let them know your worries.  I requested  ativan from my doctor during chemo but in the end never used it.  I think fear and apprehension is almost always worse than the reality.

    All the best

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  • Hey I've been told soup might be good to each while I'm doing chemo did you try it? First I've heard about a taste and it doesn't sound pleasant. The hair loss does freak me also my mam is cutting it shoulder length for me to try and help me get use to my hair been short before it goes. The fear is definitely horrible! It's strange as it hits in waves as my emotions are all over the place at the moment. I'm hoping it gets better when I start my treatment and when I have some answers. Thank you for your help and for sharing x

  • Hi 

    Soup is very good yes - I got to a point where the things that tasted best were Wotsits and advocados! Fingers crossed you don't get the bad taste thing anyway. As for hair loss I did use the cold cap which freezes your scalp- unpleasant at first but your head gets numb pretty quickly.-  I did still get some hair loss but not enough to need a wig- I stuck with a hat.

      Hope all goes well on Tuesday and you get your questions answered and a plan of action, I'm sure this will help lessen your fears.

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  • Hi 

    Soup is very good yes - I got to a point where the things that tasted best were Wotsits and advocados! Fingers crossed you don't get the bad taste thing anyway. As for hair loss I did use the cold cap which freezes your scalp- unpleasant at first but your head gets numb pretty quickly.-  I did still get some hair loss but not enough to need a wig- I stuck with a hat.

      Hope all goes well on Tuesday and you get your questions answered and a plan of action, I'm sure this will help lessen your fears.

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