Hello MandaBee

I'm sorry to hear that you've had a formal cancer diagnosis this week. You're right when you say that cancer doesn't give a shizzle and whilst it will have been a day of mixed emotions I hope that you were able to celebrate your daughter's birthday. 

I think lots of our members here will understand the relief that comes from knowing what it is that you're dealing with and what the next steps will be in terms of treatment. Hopefully, you won't have to wait too long for your surgery and the post-surgery results will bring good news. 

If there's anything you'd like to talk through with one of our nurses you're most welcome to give them a call. They're available Monday to Friday from 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Morning [@MandaBee]‍ 

I found that there was just so much information to take in and get given your little blue case to keep information in, it is only when you leave the room that you start processing the news properly. My oncologist also said about possible Chemo, but they have to tell you these things to give you as much information as possible and it all sounds scary. But the breast Nurses are always so kind and helpful, I am 5 months on from my surgery, I still feel it went by in a blur, and although the waiting for results at the time seemed so slow it really wasn't. 

Sleep is one thing I miss! so talk to your doctor about it, let them know you are struggling they will find something to help, as sleep is your friend right now, don't think oh it's just sleep I've got more important things to worry about, because when your laying awake hoping sleep will come your mind wanders and makes things a lot worse!

I know that sometimes when you feel something is wrong you do feel relief in just having an answer, regardless of what that answer is, but there will be more emotions to come, there will definitely be a rollercoaster coming, best thing to do is go with the ride and trying not to puke!

My daughter is 23, she didn't handle the news well and is in denial about the whole thing, I am going back to the breast clinic on Monday and she doesn't want to talk about it at all, so I hope your daughter is managing it, if she goes very quiet about it she is probably just processing it in the best way she can. I gave my daughter very strict instructions not to put anything on her Facebook about it...

I hope all goes well with your Surgery, did they say about node removel too?

Good Luck

I was diagnosed as grade 2 ductal carcinoma on February 19th. Still trying to process the news..some days are harder than others. I have my follow up on March 11th when I will be told the plan of action. The waiting is just horrendous. In the meantime it's my daughter's 13th Birthday on Saturday this week..looking forward to that as may bring some normality even for a day.

Good luck with your treatment and recovery x