Hi! 
 

following this post.

My mum has also been diagnosed with cancer that has spreadDocs are unsure where it has started. 

we are quite tight knit and I have two younger siblings who need care. I have gotten over the initial shock but my mum is in so much pain and there's nothing we can do. We are waiting for treatment to commence but do it covid it is delayed. 
 

given the similar circumstances I am here for a chat any time 

Dear Kate2021 and Lelsa9,

I am so so sorry to hear that you are both going through this with your mums.

Sadly I lost my dad in October and I remember his diagnosis filling me with fear. I feel it's a natural reaction to be scared, anxious, angry and all the negative emotions you are going through. I remember I kept asking myself why dad?? Why our family?? What have we done to deserve this?? The answer is still so unclear how.

Although I felt these emotions my amazing dad had other ideas. From the moment he was told he said "oh that's a bummer" but then went on to only speak about fighting it. I'm so grateful he responded in this way. Dad has been my hero for 32 years and that's why!

My advise to you both is keep that fighting spirit up for your mum. Even when you are fearing the worst just keep the spirit up for them. Everytime my dad had hope so did I. It helped hugely. It helped him too knowing I believed in fighting this horrible disease. 

Other things to advice you on are to make sure you take time out for you. This is a rollercoaster ride and you will have times when you want to scream, cry but also times when you smile and laugh. Make sure you talk, I found talking on here helpful as I didn't have friends who have been through this sort of thing as I am only 32. I felt when I spoke to people on here that there were others going through what I was. 
 

Don't be afraid to ask for help. As things like treatment and things get undergoing take all the help as a family you are offered. It will help you remain family and not feeling like you are doing everything. Let people help you as much as you can.

One last piece of advise is that as plans come together for treatment and things like that, if you need to take time off work then do. I'm a nurse and had to take 2 months off. My dad became my only focus from the day of diagnosis and I thought I just want to be there for him and nobody else. You need time to look after yourself and your mum. 
 

keep your heads up ladies. You've got this! Remember I'm only a reply away if you ever need to chat/scream/rant or whatever you need. It's a hard time but you will get through this.

xx

Thank you so much for your kind message, I appreciate it so much. 
 

I think I just feel utterly overwhelmed by emotions and i feel so, so much guilt. I just keep thinking I wish there was something that I could have done. I don't know if this is normal or not?