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Young mum & New diagnosed with invasive lobular cancer

RoxieStef88
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Hi everyone,

I'm a young mum, 32 years old with an 8 year old T1 diabetic daughter. Ive only just been diagnosed 3 weeks today with Invasive Lobular Cancer (Stage 1, Grade 2) in my right breast.
My anxiety and dread is at an all time low! 

I was meant to go back into hospital today (14/12) to discuss my treatment plan with the Oncology team. However on Friday (11/12), my breast care nurse called to say the results from my MRI had come back and showed that they had found something on my left breast aswell which needs further investigation. So, I have to go back into hospital on Thursday (17/12) for an ultrasound and biopsy, with another weeks wait ahead of me.

I'm going through the motions everyday and some days Ive managed to forget about my diagnosis and feel excited for myself, my daughter and family for spending Christmas together. 
 

I keep thinking the worst and I'm feeling overwhelmed every day it's all becoming too much for me. I have a fantastic support system and also try to meditate to keep me calm but it's just all too much for me.

Please help xx

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    Hi RoxieSteff88

    I am very sorry to hear of your diagnosis. 

    I completely understand your anxiety and the tendency to think the worst.  I have also been recently diagnosed with Stage I melanoma and find the whole thing  overwhelming.  Like you, I am trying to stay positive and calm as I have been reassured that the outcome is favourable as caught early - but my mind does tend to wander.  I  suppose it is natural  for us to feel this way. 

    My coping strategy is that I have decided to throw myself into an exercise regime (daily long walks and online yoga - something which I have been meaning to do forever but have had no time due to work  and family commitments).    That said, I am going to mother myself,  and give myself the "me time" I deserve and try and shift my focus on to something which will be beneficial to my health.  Hopefully that will help with my sleep pattern too (as I cannot sleep properly since my diagnosis).

    Hoping you will get lots of replies and support  from others who have had the same diagnosis as you and are further on in the healing process. 

    Sending you lots of love. xxx

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    Hi Roxie

    Sorry to hear what you are going through !!

    But please stay positive!!

    I have been diagnosed with the same thing in left breast stage 1 grade 2 about 8 weeks ago 

    I had my surgery 4 weeks ago and its hasn't  spread anywhere else 

    So I just need radio therapy for 5 days and have to take tablets for 5 years .

    But when I found out I was so shocked couldn't believe it was happening to me , and got 93 years old mother care for and also have son with special needs !!

    I was worried about them I would I cope with everything while will i have surgery and treatment !!

    Then I pull myself together and start doing what was in my control like preparing food and putting in frezzer

    Which can be helpful when I am getting the treatment and done all the shopping  etc to make sure I have everything what will be needed. It sounds crazy but it did really help me to divert my attention and stay positive take one step at time .

    Please just stay positive and wait for the results for your other breast results what stage its etc and take it from there .

    Take care 

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