How do I help my husband get through this terminal diagnosis. He metaphorically died the minute he was told. He is in shock. I can't breathe. His dreams have gone and so has his hope, joy, future. I don't know what to say or do. I am trying to find trials  2nd opinions. He has opted for chemo to prolong life but his mental health worries me. He has one friend he will talk to but we suddenly just sit together with this elephant in the room. He has no future. How can I help him. He has refused counselling. His mind can't process it. Tuesday he was well. Wednesday he's dying. How does anyone cope with that fact?