advise? - mums diagnosis

hi all, i dont really know where to start, but il try...

 

My mum has been diagnosied last week with primary cancer of maligment malanoma and then secondary cancer in her liver, both her lungs and spine which has stopped her from being able to walk. She is now home after being in hospital for nearly 6 weeks as we didnt know what was going on.

 

I hvae spoken to the doctor and i asked him for prognosis which he said months not years - but my mum hasnt been told until we see him in a few weeks.

 

there is only me as im an only child, and my dad died many years ago... i was just wondering if anyone had any similar experience and how long does 'months not years mean' 

 

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    Hi Katex,

    A very warm welcome to the forum that nobody really wants to join. I am so sorry to hear about your Mum's prognosis.

    Your question is a common one, but one that sadly cannot be answered. We all react differently to a cancer diagnosis and, the toll that it takes on our bodies is different in every case. Her care team have worked out their nearest 'guesstimate' on how long she has left, but there are many people who have years after a prognosis like this and others who sadly have much less. 

    This is never an easy tme, but it is always particularly difficult when you have to cope with it on your own.

    I lost both of my parents to cancer, have had 2 bouts myself and have lost many relatives and close friends to it too. If there is anything I can hep you with, you only have to ask.  You are about to embark on a hard journey with your Mum, but you will find the strength to get through it.

    Thinking of you both.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx