Hi Saloona

Welcome to the forum, there are lots of us breast cancer ladies here. I too was given two options for surgery and I declined both and decided to go for something simpler due to a number of factors. I took about 2 weeks to decide before letting my breast nurse know and then went in to see the surgeon to discuss further. 

After surgery, I realised my surgeon had done something entirely different from any of the options discussed. Not sure how common that is. 

So I would say nothing is set in stone and I suspect the appointment with the nurse is to discuss the options again so that you can decide what's best for you and then she'll go through the next steps. 

Try not to worry, the surgeon will want the best for you. x

Hi Saloona,

It is hard enough to deal with your diagnosis at this stage without having to decide upon surgical and treatment options too. Your consultant is not likely to proceed until he knows that you are completely satisfied about your choice. Make sure that you tell your nurse that you have changed your mind and she will let him know. As Magpiemaggie has said, sometimes plans can change when your surgeon is inside and finds something unexpected. This is common with any surgical procedure. In such a case, you have to rely on your surgeon to look after your best interests.

You will find your visit to the nurse a little less formal than your appointments with your consultant. Think of her as a friend with a lot of knowledge about your surgical and treatment options. She will explain anything you need to know and guide you through any practical issues. It is always helpful to write down any questions you may have for her in advance of your appointment, as it is all too easy to forget something important in the heat of the moment. I do this for all of my hospital appointments now.

My breast care nurse has been invaluable to me throughout the past 11 years. I always get an answering machine when I phone as she is so busy, but she never fails to get back to me as soon as she can.

I am glad to see that your date for surgery is not too far away and hope that it all goes well.

Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx