This is such a difficult time for me. At the moment I'm living in Austria away from my family (mum, brother, dog) and in July this year I was diagnosed with S4 colon cancer that has also spread to my liver. I've had an operation to remove about 40 cm of my large intestine which went wrong and I then had to have a second op to rectify the proplem and fit a temporary stoma bag - which I absaloutly hate! - and so far I've had two cylces of chemo. On Monday 2/11 I have a meeting with my oncologist to discuss the results of recent mri and ct scans, an op on my liver, and the next stages of my treatment. 

While things have been very difficult for me being 'alone' in Austria, I had always planned on finishing my treatment here and return home earlyish next year. However, on Friday 30/10 my mum was told that she has an inoperable tumour in her small intestines that in the last month has spread to her stomcah, liver, and lungs. In September she had had ct and mri scans for an unrelated reason that were 'clear', but further scans in October showed that her body is riddled with cancer. She's also been told that her heart has failed so they probably won't be able to give her chemo. 

All I want to do is retunr home to be with her and continue my treatment back in England. Nothing has been confirmed yet - she needs to have a meeting with a oncologist first - but I am convinced she will have, at best, a matter of weeks left and I won't be able to get back home in time. 

Has anyone else had their loved one told by their consultant that they cannot operate on their small intestine as its like a bag of worms and not as easy as operating on the large intestine? Even if the tunour grows and blocks her intestine they can't/won't operate on her. She' also vomitting all the time, unable to eat anything, and has had to have 3 blood transfusions in the last week and a half becasue she is bleeding interanlly from somewhere but the docs aren't too bothered by these things and are only giving her anti-sickness pills that aren't stopping her from throwing up after she's tried to eat or drink something. I genuinely believe that her consultant knows that she has only a week or two left but doesn't want to admit it to her and so doesn't want to/can't be bothered to waste time treating someone who will be gone soon.