Why does mam have to be In so much pain even with morphine

29 days ago we took my mam to a local hospital. As for 2-3 days she had been suffering from pains in her stomach. They sent her home 4 hours later with paracetamol and said she may have an enlarged liver. And would be sent for emergency scans. Which turned out to be 5 weeks time. So after a week no improvement if anything the pain was worse o she went back to the doctor and the prescribed her morphine. 3-4 days later she was still in lots amount of pain. And hadn't eaten much this entire time so we took her to another local hospital for a second opinion. 2 hours after being there they told us she was dehydrated and starving and said they would keep her in over night to observe her. Then 9 hours after we admitted my mam to the hospital we got the worst call of our lives and was informed my mother had liver cancer. After being transferred to a specialist hospital the same night 9 days later we had a meeting with the doctor who give us the news no one ever wants to here and that she had liver cancer. Gaul bladder cancer and it was in her spine too. And unfortunately there was nothing more they could do. 2 days after the doctors heartbreaking news we were told that a palative care team would be meeting with us to discuss trying to get my mam home so she could live out her final few weeks with us at home. So within the space of less than a month we are now facing  the horrible thought of loosing my mom so soon. To make things worse for 3 weeks the hospital or doctors can't fix her pain no matter what they try. We are so heartbrokento see my mother suffer from three horrible cancers in her body but now have to watch her grow weaker by the day and suffer 24x7 every single day. My emotions and feelings are all over the place and just wish that they could make her pain go away so she can just spend the time with her family in peace not in agony. 17 tablets a day. Morphine every hour yet still her pain causes her to cry in agony. Is thee nothing that can be given or done or a treatment to numb my mams pain so she can just live out her last few days/weeks with dignity and peace. It is killing us all watching such a strong, loving kind woman suffer In so much pain. I am only writing this as I am so at my ends witt seeing my mam suffer so much and want to know if there is anyone out there who has watched a parent or have any advice on how to help a loved one. 

  • Hi my mother had been in the hospital for 17 days and they have never been able to get her pain under control. It has been so heartbreaking to watch as No matter what they said they tried or done they just couldn't get her pain to stop.

     

    It was morphine every 4 hours then 3, then 2 now since she has come home it is every hour. Now we can up her dose. But she is just in constant pain. And seeing her in so much pain and tears kills me. She is in her final days/week and is already weak so I just wish she could be pain free and spend time with her family. The palliative care team come around but they are more there to get her ready and give her bed baths.

     

    WE have to give her all her medication. It is so hard seeing my mam struggle and my poor dad at 74 havu g to watch his wife of 51 years suffer with awful cancer but also horrible constant pain. 

     

    I love my mother and never want to loose her as I will never be able to kiss her or tell her how amazing she has been but for now 30 days she has been in constant pain and getting no sleep. She says she is going insane.  So on the other hand I wish she could go to sleep and slip away peacefuly so she doesn't have to be In this much pain. 

     

    No one deserves this