Hi same position just be diagnosed with DICS and told will need mascetomy.  I have told my 15 year old but not in huge detail.  I have decided I am not going to tell my 10 year old until I have a date for surgery and know more detail. He is a worrier and has a learning disability. I am a single parent as well.  I think you should do what you feel comfortable with.  Children do surprise you and are very resilant.  You know them best.  Good luck.

Frazzles

Hiya,

Sorry to hear you have BC. I was diagnosed in April and fortunately have had my op and finished radiotherapy and other then taking tamoxifen I'm all done.
 

My children are 18 and 12. I told my eldest and he has been a brilliant support and colluded with me to keep it from my youngest, who thank god remains blissfully unaware. I felt that if I had to tell him I would but fortunately it's not been necessary. 
 

Wishing you all the best for your treatment x

Thanks Frazzles,

I will see what the treatment plan is, may then tell my 12 yr old! Have you been given a date for your mastectomy- I'm curious how quickly this happens! 
x

Thanks 123nelly,

this fills me with positivity, I'm so hoping this will be the case with me too! I work in a school and hate taking time off, but also worried about the risks of covid-19!

x

Hi

Thank you.  I am so pleased your 18 year old was supportive it makes all the difference.   My 15 year seems to be taking it in her stride.  Can I ask if you had mascetomy and reconstruction and how you were after ops.

Frazzles

Hi no date yet as they are talking about doing mascetomy and reconstruction all at the same time and that takes time to organise.  If I have just the mascetomy I think I could have been on the list in about 3 to 4 weeks.  Hope you find out soon.  I am seeing my consultant tomorrow so hoping for more answers.

Frazzles

Hiya Frazzles

I had a lumpectomy & sentinel node biopsy and recovered quickly. Felt numb and weird to start with but now almost 12 weeks on I am back to playing sport, back to work and the numbness is only where I have some back fat - so not feeling that isn't a problem . 
 

I am very lucky that my margins were clear so I didn't need to have any further ops.  I didn't have a mastectomy but  I am sure what you are imagining it will be like is a whole lot worse than the reality.

wishing you all the best on this truly s*** journey we are on. Also make sure you get the heart shaped pillow for post op, it was a life saver (they are made by volunteers and slot under your arm- your BCN will know how to get one to you).

keep me posted on how you get on xx

Hi thank you. Will let you know what happens.