Hi Laura, I noticed no one had replied regarding Mum's diagnosis.  My husband has stage 4 lung, liver cancer he is 74 years old, diagnosed three years ago.  So really until you know what they are planning for Mum just keep it as normal as you can.  My husband hates people being upset around him and we always have a laugh and a good family get together so we aren't constantly moping about what is happening.  It's very hard for our daughters but they follow our lead, are both grown up and are there if we need them.  We just want a normal family life and won't let cancer interfere more than it has too.  I've not been able to go and see them so they come to us, the grandchildren know he's not well but they also go with the flow.  Hope this helps a little.  Post more if you need to.  Kind regards, Carol x 

Hi Carol 

Thank you so much for your response and helpful advice. I also hope you and yours are doing well. 

We have our appointment with the oncologist on Tuesday. I have a million and one questions for when we get there. 

I am putting on a brave face and trying to not show mum how I worried I am, I want to make the most of every little thing. Does your husband have treatment? If so how does it make him feel? (I know everyone is different) just as a rough guide.

I'm worried about mum slipping into a routine. The past few days I'm asking if she wants to go for a run out in the car, just for a coffee or an ice cream but prefers to sit indoors. I'm worried that this will hinder her even more in regards to breathing.

Kindest regards,

Laura x