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So the roller coaster has begun

Deb01
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So yesterday I was told that I have breast cancer

as yet they don't know what stage is it at or what type of cancer it is or what course of treatment I will need to have, this I will find out on Thursday when I meet with my consultant surgeon. 
I just want to say how lovely all the doctors, nurses and care assistance were yesterday whilst I was going through all the tests. I didn't have to wait very long at all between tests at all, which I was very grateful for. They all showed so much compassion to myself and my husband. 
After we got back from the hospital I had to do one of the hardest things I have ever had to do and that was to tell my children, family and friends. 
How do I feel.... numb at the moment and until I have had my next appointment I am trying my hardest not to start thinking the worst, I need to take one day at a time, be strong for my husband and children and remember I have so much to carry on for and so much to look forward to next year, my daughters wedding to start with in April. 
Yes this is one of the scariest things I have ever had to deal with as I have never really been ill, never been in hospital for myself, but now I'm sure I will be seeing a lot more of it.

  • Hi Deb01,

    I'm very sorry to read this. I hope you're getting on OK - it sounds like an incredibly difficult situation, but it sounds as if you are coping well.

    Hopefully the appointment this week will provide further clarity and an idea of next steps.

    It's great to hear that the medical team were helpful - this of course makes such a difference.

    Do have a browse around this forum if you don't get further replies to this post, as there will be many others here who have been through something similar, and I hope you find it useful to speak to others and write your thoughts down here.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi Deb,

    I am so sorry to hear about your news. This is a very scary time, but you will feel better once you find out exactly what type and grade of cancer you have and, you start to have treatment. The way you are feeling at the moment is perfectly normal, and fear of the unknown can lead many of us to expect the worst, but fortunately this seldom happens.

    I am delighted to hear that you had a good experience with the hospital staff. Most of them are excellent.

    It is never easy to break the news to family and friends, but I'm glad to hear that you have already done this. Can I ask whhat family you have and, what ages are they?

    Just be thankful that your daughter's wedding is not this year, but next. It can take up to a year to get all of our surgery and treatment behind us and, start to feel normal again, so you should be fit and well and, ready to enjoy the day to the full when it comes. 

    Please don't be tempted to look up the internet. Try to stick to well-respected cancer sites, if you must look things up. Fortunately, you don't have long to wait until Thursday'

    I hope that, when you get your diagnosis, the news is as good as it can be for you.

    Please keep in touch. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

     

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    Thank you for your kind words, my daughters wedding was supposed to be in 2 weeks but unfortunately due to COVID-19 we had to move it so that she gets the day that she wants and deserve. We are just hoping it can now go ahead on the new date in April, just a waiting game to see if numbers for guests can increase and if we can have more then just a sit down meal!!

    I have 2 grown up children 25 and nearly 21, very proud of both of them my daughter is the eldest and she lives near by and my son is in the Navy, but is home on summer leave at the moment. 
    I have the most wonderful, hardworking, supportive, kind and lovely husband and I feel very lucky to have met him 8 years ago. 
    I have been reading up on this site about types and stages of cancer to try to help prepare myself for whatever they tell me on Thursday. 
    I know I could have a long road ahead to recovery/cure but I have to stay positive until I know what I'm dealing with and what plan they have for me going forward. 
    Xx

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