Hello Louisa_lily, 

A warm welcome to Cancer Chat. I am so sorry to hear the sad news about your dad's diagnosis and that his cancer has spread. It must be so hard for you to take all this in. You've done the right thing to come here and express how you are feeling and hopefully you will hear from some of our other members who have also looked after a loved one with advanced cancer. You are not alone here - many will understand exactly how you are feeling at the moment and I hope they will be along to share some tips with you on how to cope in the coming weeks and how best to support your dad but also look after yourself during this difficult time. 

There is information on our website here for family, friends and caregivers with helpful suggestions on how to support a loved one who has been diagnosed with cancer on an emotional and practical level. You will also find out more about how to take care of yourself during this difficult time and recharge your own batteries when you feel it all gets too much. 

I hope this helps a little and that you will hear from others who have been in the same position before and that they come and share their story with you. 

We're thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. You seem to be so caring I am sure your dad appreciates all your support.

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator