Hi,

My mom has been recently diagnosed with cervical cancer after 1 year and a half in pain - she has visited the hospital 75 times and no one was able to find out the cause  untl now. She even had a cervical biopsy last year which showed clear ,to have it again now and find out it's cancer. Not only that, but they also found 2 spots on a lung and a cyst on the left adrenal glad. She had a small surgery to remove one of the lung spots for a biopsy and was told the other one is too small to remove now. The adrenal cyst also showed on MRI a few times, once in Novermber when it was at 1 cm, once in March at 2 cms and once now at 2.7cms - every time until now she was told it's just a polichistic cyst, for them to say now it's metastasis from cervix.

We met with the oncolog on Monday and I am not sure if he just tried to avoid the subject or if he acually believed we can cure her, but he did not mention any negatives like survival time, stage 4,terminal stage,incurable ; What he said was that the cervical tumour is inoperable at the moment because 1) is too big 2) she has metastases. So he said the plan is to put her on cheme(she started yesterday on cisplatin and etoposide) for 3 months stating there is a good chance all will shrink from it, then have a radiography to check the progress; then if it's working, carry on for 3 more months with it .He also mentioned he might add radiotheraphy with time and if it has shrunk enough, even surgery.

To me they sound like the plan is to cure it, but reading on google it all sounds like small survival rates-even if cured, it's likely to come back quickly.Can cancer with metastases be cured? Sounds like hers are really small, and even the one on the adrenal gland, she had it for 7-8 months now without causing her to die or spreading more.

Also, does anyone know of support group of people whose parent has cancer? I am 29 and an only child and find this extremeley difficult and I feel like I am not mentally stable at times - trying to work on this and I guess communication is the best way,but I cannot speak with her - she keeps on telling me to be strong for her when I try to talk to her ,and then I drop the subject.

Thank you

Diana