Very sorry about your news. You might decide to wait until you get the results in 10 days, before telling anyone. But 10 days is a long time! You are naturally stressed and your children may pick up on this anyway, even over the phone. But this should be about you. If you feel you would like your children to support you now, then tell them. If you prefer not to at this stage, that's fine too. Your elderly Mum may need to be handled differently, of course.

I very much hope that your biopsy results are as good as they can possibly be. Best wishes. Harry

Hi there ...

So sorry you've had to join our little club, but it's a place where we KNOW how it feels, as we've got the tee shirt ... mine says cancer touched my boob so I kicked it's ***.... 

I was 63 when diagnosed with grade 3 breast cancer.... and no matter how prepaired we think we are, it still knocks us for 6 hearing those words ... I cried for two days .. cussing and doing all the what ifs .. and all I could see was my funeral ... even wrote letters to those I loved ... 

It did me good to get all those feelings out, coz after with the help of my daughter in law,  and a lovely lady on here, got up ready to take it head on .. I got a  pair of pink vertual boxing gloves ... and looked it in the eye ... that was 3 years ago next month .. my auntie got it 6 months after me, and both of us had a total right masectomy... and my nephew a while later ... and I chatted to 6 others on here .. all different stages and treatments... and wer all still here ... we only hear the sad stories on t.v .. it's come a long way ..

And you don't know for deffinate yet .. but write down any questions you may have .. take or have someone with you, who can write down what they say ... as it does go over your head ... but you'll always find a breast buddy here ... my funeral plans and letters, are all put away safely ...  hopefully for a while .. sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie x

Thank you so much for your support xx

Thank you so much Chrissie for your support and fingers crossed

Hi there, its such a shock, I went on Friday and same thing, right breast and lymph biopsy ans awaiting results, but was told to prepare.I must say the fear and anxiety has got much better, Im not so shocked and I finally have come back to my self after feeling outer bodyish for two days.

It's my 60th birthday in 8 weeks and planned to go to Portugal with all my friends for a month, the nurse seemed to say that wasnt gonna happen. So adjusting to that.

As everyone seems to be saying, once you get treatment plan, you pick yourself up a bit and prepare to fight.

Jacquie

Hello 

yes someone looking at you and saying ‘cancer’ IS very hard to take in. As much as anything it almost sounds insulting. Me?  Cancer?? I am SO well. I think you are likely in a similar place to where I was when diagnosed in October 2019. I was 67 then but always pretty fit and well. Suddenly I wasn’t. Suddenly the unthinkable happened. 

Have to say though I never did feel unwell. Diagnosed in October 2019 and major op on 1/11 and final radiotherapy on 28/2/20  The operation obviously knocked me but apart from that I was and still feel fine. Psychologically floored but still standing! 

I have no advice just a view from limited experience. It’s a massive wake up call to take care of YOU. Work things out. Go with what you feel is right. Yes listen to others but always go YOUR way. It’s important because you are under immense stress and tension right now. No one knows what’s best for you better than you. The surgeon/oncologist and breast care nurses are fabulous.  They will keep you informed and supported. They are there in your hour of need.  Use them.  This forum is also brilliant to vent.  Say what you think. Seek support.

I know you likely feel very alone. You are NOT alone. There are a lot of us out here.  Go steady.  Lean on people you love and trust. You will be amazed at how people can step up to the plate when it’s necessary. You will likely even amaze yourself!! 

Sending pisitive vibes. You can do this.

Kebbs x 

Healthy61

Hi just read your  post and  it is hard to deal with, being told  that they suspect you  have breast cancer.. its a total shock, and the wait for results is awful.

Yours may not be breast cancer, but if it is you will be looked after and cancer can be beaten, there are many women on here who have done just that and given me hope that i will do the same.

Im due to have my operation  in my right breast nxt tues tues or wed ( yet to be decided )  a lumpectomy and all lymph nodes removed from under my right arm, as it has spread to my lymph nodes.  But i got good news today that its not gone anywhere else.   

Im hoping yours isnt cancer but if it is this chatt room is so helpful , and you will always find a lot of love and positive vibes from some amazing people in here .its hard telling family, i had to tell my son and daughter which was ecspecialy hard as my son was diognosed with testicular cancer just before Christmas and has had chemotherapy and it made it harder to tell them. My son has a scan in the 10th June to check.on things and sees his consultant on the 25th June to hopefully get some good news.  

I m sending you much love and positive vibes your way, stay strong  and im here if you  need to chat about things .xxxx