Hello. I have just recently (the past 6 months) been through diagnosis,  chemo, surgery and now currently radiotherapy.  Your treatment plan will be made with you once they get an absolute diagnosis.  You will not be made to do anything you dont want, you will be able to ask questions.  You sound particularly worried about chemo. What is it that's worries you? In my experience, it is not an easy journey but it is very bearable. You will be given medications to help with nausea, and you will be tired. But you will be ok. That's assuming you need it. I suggest that you write down any questions you have now  and take them with you to next appointment.

Chemo has been a lifetime fear for me.

I've also witnessed 4 people close hand go through it and it's barbaric. It's something I cannot take and am not prepared to go through. Being forced into this or nothing is my biggest concern right now. 

So so stressed 

No one can force you into chemo.

Chemo is not without risks and it is always a personal decision what treatments to have. Some doctors may push more or less strongly for certain treatments.

Hopefully doctor will understand your concerns. If not, you can always ask to switch doctor.

If this bothers you so much there is the option to make an Advanced Decision ruling out chemo. Then no one can give it to you without your consent.

Listen carefully to what doctors have to say. Let them speak so they can see that you have heard what they are saying. But if what they recommend is not what you want then you have to tell them - have a list of treatments you feel you can accept ready. Tell them that the chemo is a red line for you if that's what it absolutely is. If you are worried you might clam up on the day, then have something in writing with you ready to hand over.

Btw did you ring any of the helplines?

Have you looked on the breastcancernow website?