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Brain tumour

Lizzy64
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HI 

My 29 year old son-in-law has been diagnosed with grade 3 aggressive brain tumour today.  He starts radiotherapy next week with chemo shortly after.   He has been told that this won't be a cure but a way of trying to slow down the process when it will changed to grade 4.  He has been given 3 - 4 years.  I am devastated for him, for my daughter and their daughter who is aged 8.  Why is it that I cannot stop crying? I feel so selfish when it is not about me, it is them that it is going to affect the most?

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    Hi Lizzy

    Really sorry to hear of your son-in-law. You're not being selfish at all by being upset by this news. Your poor daughter is facing losing her husband and your grand daughter losing her father and you losing a son in law, its onliy natural that you will find this upsetting as its your family. So by all means cry, get it out your system, your family are going to need you to support them and once the shock has passed and the tears have been shed you will be in a much better position to offer than much needed support. 

    Your family will be in my thoughts x

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    Thank you so much for that.  I do feel better this morning hving cried a lot yesterday and tossed and turned in bed last night.   My other daughter and I are going to put together a bucket list of loads of positive things we could do for them.  One positive thing about the corona virus is that he is able to spend quality time with Faith, his daughter, whilst she is not at school.

     

    xx

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    Hi Lizzy

    Glad to hear your feeling better and great to hear you're putting a bucket list of positive things. When my husband died, our son was very young, altough I brought him up with many memories of his dad I wish I had recordongs of him talking and a sample of his handwritting as it became really important to my son to see how much he's like his father. Might be an idea to think into the future and get things his daughter will want in the future. sending love x

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    HI

     

    That's a great idea.  Will definitely do that.  He could write her birthday cards, sign her school readinig books, things like that.  Yes, great.  Thanks.

     

    Lizzy

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