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My husband who is 71 has just been diagnosed with bowel cancer that has spread to his liver.

We are going on Thursday to hear his option. Best outlook surgery to remove liver cancer, then surgery to remove bowel cancer.

Or, chemotherapy

I am in bits but he is very nonchalant.

I really don't know what to do, except stick to the low residue diet and go with him to all appointments

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    Hi there ...

    And welcome to our little chat place...  well there's nothing much you can do, except be there with him .. people take it differently .. he may look o.k now, but it can hit us any time.. we can be o.k and up beat .. then crash down .. or vice versa .. 

    For me having someone hold my hand and just be there was amazing .. my family let me lead the way .. and just supported me in every decision ... cancer makes us feel like it takes control out of our hands .. well I never let it, I weighed everything up, and decided my own path .. I took back control ... and knowing my family were right there, got me through everything ... 

    You sound amazing caring .. so just go with the flow, and be ready for anything ... it's like a rollercoaster ride... we get on .. hold on tight... and the scary bit is not knowing when we can get off .. but wer on there .. your not alone ... so jump on with him, and wer here to help along the way ... 

    Sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie xx 

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    Hi

    Sorry to hear your hubby has cancer.. it's such a shock when it's diagnosed. My mum has bowel cancer with liver spread and I wish she was as upbeat as you said your hubby is. Mum isn't eating and is always feeling sick whether that's the illness or the fact she is stuck in hospital heaven knows but I'm very concerned as losing weight will be problematic in the long run if she needs chemo but the doctors haven't really bothered with her treatment plans. It's sad .. she is 72 maybe they think it isn't worth it despite her not acting anywhere near 72! It is the north west and we are notorious for having the worst healthcare in all the UK. I am so very sad. I hope your husband gets better. I wish him lots of luck. Take care.

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