Hi Laine, 

I noticed you haven't had a reply yet so I just wanted to quickly welcome you to the forum and also say how sorry I am about your mum's diagnosis. No doubt you're all going through a range of thoughts and emotions at the moment but you're not alone as many of our members have been where you are now and hopefully some of them will pop by soon to offer their support and advice.

You can find out more about pancreatic cancer on our website just here but if you have any questions playing on your mind or would just like to talk to someone about what's happened then do give our cancer nurses a call on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

I hope you're not waiting too long to find out what happens next.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Iaine,

im really sorry to hear your mum has pancreatic cancer. It really is an awful disease. I just lost my dad to it end of January 2 weeks after being diagnosed and like you I thought what am I going to do without my dad. It’s bloody hard but you have to be strong for your mum as can you imagine how she is feeling at the moment. You need to make sure you are there for her 100% and that’s all you can do. Tell her everything you want her to know and ask questions that’s you hadn’t asked before and have as many cuddles as you can with her. It’s such a bad time with the lockdown to be going through this. My heart goes out to you.

charlotte xxx big hug xxx

Hi [@char35]‍ 

So sorry about your dad.

My dad was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer in June. He had been having issues since Jan and palliative care ten have told us recently that they don't think he'll make it to Halloween. His appetite has lessened even more the past few days and I'm trying to prepare myself for what is to come.

Was there any signs that your dad was near the end? I'm sorry if you find it difficult to discuss. I feel like I want to know as it makes me feel less stressed trying to prepare for when it happens.

Xxx

Hi @grievingalready
 

I'm so sorry to hear the terrible news about your dad. The last 2 weeks of my dads life he couldn't really eat a lot at all. He was being sick daily but in the last week of his life he couldn't eat and was vomiting several times through the day and night. The vomit was brown in colour and we didn't know why. In the end when he was admitted to a hospice the doctor there said it was brown as he had a internal bleeding. He only lasted one night in the hospice and passed away. 
My dad was completely with it mentally even in his last day when he was admitted to the hospice. 
the doctors at the hospice spoke to him about medication and asked how he was feeling and he was able to speak for himself as normal but that night his time was up. Me and my family really didn't expect my dad to pass that evening. We thought we would have more warning signs. 
I wish I could help you more I really do. I know exactly what you are going through it's absolutely awful. How old is your dad? My dad has just turned 70. I will never get over it being diagnosed and passing 2 weeks later. 
anytime you need a chat I'm here.

[@Grievingalready]‍ 

My dad was taken into hospital 22nd December after being in a&e prior to this with the a&e doctor telling my dad that his pancreas was healthier than the doctors himself. Then 2 weeks later I called an ambulance as my work colleagues dad is GI Doctor and he said he needs to be seen ASAP. He was admitted 22nd dec but with it being over the Xmas period and new year he was diagnosed until 10th January. The doctor told him it was inoperable and that chemotherapy or radiotherapy wasn't an option. 
Myself and and sisters and my mum was always up in the ward with my dad especially mum but yet they told my dad while he was on his own. 
My dad was so strong he never shed a tear which made up stronger to make his last couple of weeks bearable.

My dad loved a drink also and a roll up but he stopped roll ups once he was diagnosed copd. He still managed to have a crafty one when he had a few drinks though. 
I feel so angry that he passed so quickly even he didn't think it would end this way. 
as your dad isn't eating much now I would say that's a big sign that it won't be long...everyday you will tell if he eats less each day then eventually they don't want anything but water then it isn't long at all. I'm so sorry that u are going through this and your dad Xx