Hey

I am a new triple neg too and diagnosed 4 weeks ago. My mastectomy is tomorrow. Hubby is also a key worker and I think I'm on day 14 of isolation.

I've been lonely and dark and strong and calm and everything in between. But this forum has lots of triple negative ladies who can give you hope. 

Lots of love to you xx

Hi Lonely member, and you are not alone in facing this. Others have shared with you that the diagnosis can hit us like a ton of bricks, even if we dont ever show that on the outside. Id had breast surgery for a childhood deformity when I was 18, being abnormal looking was the cross I bore as a teenager, with the school *** bullies constantly on at me, I got good at hiding,  Last autumn I found the lump which was later dx as stage 2 invasive cancer, It took weeks to tell my husband and kids, Surgery was 3/12, and recovery was going normally but then, bang, chest infection end of Jjanuary, day after seeing oncology who gave good news I dont need chemo, but am on anastrozole to block hormones. With the covid thing now, Im scared, my other medical condition makes it harder, My anxiety when first diagnosed was a shock, Im usually quite a tough and organised person, but it turned my brain to mush, I couldnt eat sleep or work, and lost loads of weight without meaning to.  All I can say to you from my experience is that please, be gentle on yourself, if you can, try to avoid catastrophic thoughts and ideas that all will be doom and gloom. My husband kept saying over and over "we'll get through this" and I struggled to believe him, but in the end, despite all the chaos around now, Im beginnning to feel he is probably right,  You say your surgery is due on 7/4, so I wish you every success with that, and a good outcoome and recovery- take things one day at a time, even one hour at a time, and dont let the dark thoughts cloud out the good bits. There is a lot of love and support available here in the group, and the moderators, and the nurses, they are there for you, never be afraid to ask, to rage, to rant or to support someone else, we will get what you are going through, all best x