Just been diagnosed

Hello, just been diagnosed with DCIS, as a result of a routine 3-yearly mammogram.    I don't know whether it's low, intermediate or high, the nurse said they would know when they remove it.  I was originally given a surgery date of 4-5 weeks but then got a phone call saying they'd had a cancellation and could do me next Wednesday!   After convincing myself that there was nothing sinister about that, I've now gone down with a cold so am unsure whether they will go ahead until my cold has cleared up.  I'll ring the pre-op team tomorrow.

My main concern is wondering if I'm taking this seriously enough.   I keep telling myself and everyone else that it's very early stage, low key, and no biggie but my daughter thinks I'm being far too blase about it all.  I said to the surgeon at the consent meeting that I felt I should be weeping and wailing and while I don't think I'm in denial as such, I don't feel justified to actually come out with  "I have cancer".  I keep telling myself that as it's a lumpectomy and not a mastectomy, it's nothing compared to what a lot of women have to go through.

I lost my Mum to BC 33 years ago and they have suggested that my 40 daughter asks our GP to refer her for early screening just to be on the safe side, which all makes me think I should wake up and smell the coffee!

Please, I'm most certainly not belittling cancer at all and just reading this over makes me feel as though I'm a bit weird but it's how I feel.  Am I heading for a fall?

  • Hi lovely, 

    No I don't think you are belittling it or being weird - it is just a very surreal time when you have been diagnosed I think. 

    I have Grade 3 Triple Negative Invasive Ductal Carcinoma and I am still very blase about it all. Mine is early so I am mostly refusing to worry about what might happen. I think it's good they are getting yours out nice and early so it doesn't go rampaging and I think keep that positive mental atttude and be kind to yourself. 

    G xx

  • Hi Gistaline,

    Thank you so much. When I read my post back I very nearly went and deleted the whole thing, thinking that it sounded very flippant but then I read your lovely reply and everything felt ok.

    I’m glad they caught yours early and admire your positivity as well, and wish you all the luck in the world with fighting it. 

    Take care xx