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Stage 4 breast cancer

Rosieblue
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Hello All,

I guess this is all very new to me... my mum was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer (liver and lung). We only found out a few days ago and I have been through all the stages and now, hit the anger stage. She had breast cancer three years ago and has regular blood tests and follow ups, but nothing has picked this up. The oncologist had ya leave with no next steps, and I feel lost. Looking for any suggestions, alternative treatments and hope. 
 

thank you 

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    Hi there ..

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment..

    I'm also a breast cancer lass... and I know there comes a time, when we have to come to terms there's no more treatment... and yet it is possible to have a reasonable amount of time ... as some on here are doing .. 

    Would you really want her to go through lots more treatment with maybe not much better prognosis.. now is the time to make every day count ... make each day a memory day .. leave nothing unsaid .. find out if there's something she still wants to do .. sit and hold her hand .. look through old pictures and ask about her life from being young ... bet there's lots you don't know...

    Don't look ahead .. just live in the day .. if she's with you that day .. hold on to that .. that's what I'm doing .. as I don't want to waste a day ... so sending you a vertual hug...Chrissie xx

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     Chriss, thank you so much for your wise and beautiful words. I'm looking to use every day as an opportunity to make memories, however that doesn't make things any easier. I often breakdown and have outbursts of sadness and anger, I don't know quite how I'll cope when that time comes. I feel useless. I'm 23 and my mum is the only family I have.

     

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