Lung cancer

Hi all, my dad has just been diagnosed with lung cancer and its completely out of the blue. I am devastated for him and for us as a family. I feel almost panicked and my head is in a whirl. I dont know if this makes sense or is familiar with others but its almost like i feel so scared, i will miss him so much he has been my rock with my little girl being poorly. Im scared i wont remember things or memories and i cant talk about them with others as they wont understand or remember those things. Im not sure im making sense here but i just know we are still in shock as was told new years eve and in limbo at the mo until we find out type and stage. We know it has already spread to his lymph nodes. Really looking for hope here i guess......

  • Hey, 

     

    we found out on Wednesday that my mum has actually got lung cancer, and not just feeling 'off', like she has since October. What can I say to make it better? There isn't anything I have to offer. It's been less than a week and my whole world has come crashing around. Tomorrow we find out if it's spread or not. 
     

    but, what I have learnt over the course of the last few days is that it is OK to feel NOT ok. It's a perfectly natural and human reaction. You are allowed to feel scared. Feeling scared is just part of the way we process this unwanted information. 
     

    talk to your dad and tell him that you're scared. You'll most likely find that he will put his arms around you and say the same thing. One thing I've learnt is to just be honest with the way that you are feeling. My mum said that it gives her strength to know that I'm petrified, because she doesn't want her baby to be scared and not be around. In a way, she said it eggs her on to fight it even more! 
     

    alwaysbhere if you need to chat. Lord knows, I'll need it too! 
     

    kalvin 

    xx

  • Hi my name is gaynor I hope you dont mind me messaging my mum found out on friday she has lung cancer its spread to nearby lymp nodes but contained in her lung thankfully she begins treatment for chemotherapy and radiotherapy in 2 weeks it's so upsetting trying to stay strong up and down I feel like it's not real when I wake up 

    How did you cope and how is everything going thankyou gaynor x