Breaking the news

Hello, I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer. I am in shock right  now and thankful for this forum. My question is, how do I tell my children? They are 21 and 23 and live in different parts of the country.....there dad died 10 years ago......it breaks my heart that I have to tell them but until I do I know I cannot think of anything else....thank you for your suggestions 

  • Well done Andrea, taking it in your stride, brilliant!!! Everyone I have come across since this started have been remarkable, family, friends and healthcare professionals.

    All the very best to you and keep going, Sounds like you’re giving it everything!!!

    :0)

    Steve.

  • Hello lovely

    Just checking in. How have you have coped with your last cocktail session? All good I hope. 

    I know what you mean about the cap, I think it was the nurses first time on my first attempt but had a much more experienced nurse last time round. She was much more confident in putting g it on. Unfortunately I found the smell of the conditioner very offensive which made me feel really sick and i actually cried and I'm a tough old bird normally. I did stick it out tho but not sure if I will next time. 

    I have had an ultrasound last week that showed my tumour has shrank from 5cm to 3cm so pleased to know the chemo is working after just 2 sessions and had my 3rd session yesterday. But after initially being told I may only have 4 sessions I will probably need six. Which has made me emotional for some reason. I never was one for rollercoasters. 

    I would love to be brave enough to give my hair a short cut but it wouldn't be pretty. Haha 

    Watched The Joker tonight!  Quite a good film.  Now watching Game of Thrones from the beginning after reading the books. 

    Are you having a mastectomy or breast conservation surgery?I dont know if I will have a choice. And if so what to choose, the thought of a new perky pair sounds appealing lol

    I do hope you are doing well and have lots of hugs and support from your son and daughter. 

    Lots of love also x

     

     

     

     

  • Hi Stef

    good to hear from you. 
    I had a difficult week after the second chemo, they changed my anti sickness drug which caused me to get severely bunged up! It was not pleasant and made me feel ill for the best part of the week. That's all behind me now thank goodness....

    Now I'm enjoying feeling well between sessions and making the most of seeing friends and doing things I like. I saw Joker as well and thought it was a great film, also went to see Parasite which was excellent as well ( foreign film with subtitles)

    I haven't seen my children as my daughters in London and works really long hours and my sons in Cambridge on a low income job which means paying the rent takes most of his wages! I know they support me and I'm ok not seeing them.

    my third chemo is next Friday, it will be the half way mark, I will also have an ultrasound afterwards so it'll be interesting to see the size of the tumour....I can't feel it anymore so I'm hoping it's much smaller. So pleased yours has shrunk....it must have been hard to hear you'll need more chemo.....I would have cried as well as emotionally we prepare for one thing and to be told something else is difficult.....I also despise roller coasters!

    did I tell you I'd shaved my hair off? I'm  sporting a 6mm cut now and I actually really like it! Perhaps the chemo is making me hallucinate ...... but I think it quite suits me lol

    I won't know about the surgery until I get the results of the genetic testing....it will either be a double mastectomy ( plus hysterectomy and Fallopian tubes) or a lumpectomy and lymph node biopsy......I'm hoping for the later.

    Thanks  again for your message, I really like to hear from you...my friend is visiting from Yeovil Monday....she is coming for a couple of days.

    take care and lots of love

    Andrea xx

     

  • Hi

    Just thought I'd reply to say I live near Wymondham!

    Currently awaiting further tests and consultants appointment regarding lung cancer

    Friend me if you'd like to

    All the very best for your treatment

    Andrea15!!

    Xx

  • Hi Steve,

    how are you getting on?

  • Hi Andrea 15

    it looks like you have been posting on here for a long time....I really hope you don't have lung cancer and everything comes back clear. 

    Hoping for the very best for you

    Andrea x

  • Hi Andrea,

     

    Good thanks, and thanks for asking. I have a meeting on Tuesday with my surgeon to get results from my op. I’m hoping the lump they found is the primary cancer. Then we’ll take it from there!! Fingers crossed!!

    How are you doing?

    Steve

  • Hi Steve,

    I will be thinking about you Tuesday and hope as well For a good outcome .....

    I am doing well, the chemo week is difficult but then I get two weeks feeling ok before the next round....I make the most of every day

    Andrea

  • Thanks.

    Good for you Andrea!!!!

    Kick its ***!!

    Steve.

     

     

  • Dear Steph, it's ages since we spoke and so much has happened that we could not begin to think of in that short time......I managed to lose our conversation and it's taken me ages to find it, but I want you to know I have been thinking of you throughout this time.....

    I hope you are well, that you are safe along with your family.....I hope you are able to continue your treatment and that you are managing your side effects and so on.....

    I know it is a scary time for everyone, especially for those of us having this treatment, you are an amazingly positive person and I am sure you are keeping afloat and keeping your family afloat as well....

    I hope you find the time to let me know how you are

    sending my very best wishes to you and your family

    Andrea xxxx