Recently diagnosed with breast cancer

Hi all. I'm hoping someone can help or just listen really. Back in May I noticed my right breast was increasing in size and had other issues with it, so went to the gp who said it was basically IBS and the breast increase was hormones, they ran bloods anyway and checked me for ovarian cancer which all came back normal. Fast forward to October I returned to the gp and said something wasn't right, I didn't feel right in myself and the breast was rapidally increasing and I was having nipple discharge. She performed a breast examination and found a lump. I was referred to my local breast clinic as urgent. Had an appt on 18th Nov, they performed a biopsy on the lump and said it didn't look suspicious and was most likely just  a cyst so I left feeling relieved. I was called back in yesterday for my results and was told that sadly it was breast cancer. This came as a complete shock to both myself and the Drs. In that moment my whole world came crushing down on me and all I could think about was my little girl. I'm 32 years old, why is this happening to me and what have I done to deserve this. Thankfully it's been caught early but I have to go in for an mri to see if it's spread anywhere else. I have a fantastic support network but yet I feel so alone. My Husband doesn't know how to deal with it and he's way is just to clam up and not talk about it. I'm sorry for rambling on but I just want to talk to someone who is going through the same thing or has been.

Xx

  • I'm sorry to hear you've been diagnosed with bc, you must be feeling all sorts of emotions right now.. I am still waiting for my breast clinic appointment which is next week on the 10th and I am driving myself crazy with anxiety about it all.. 

    Ramble away though, I am sure there are many who will be able to share their experiences with you and hopefully bring you some comfort..  x

  • My emotions are all over the place, I'm on my own today and it's just really hit home hard. I feel angry and let down by my gp. 

    Good luck for your appointment lovely, I hope it's nothing sinister

    X

  • I bet you do,I would feel angry also.. We know our own bodies and it is frustrating when we aren't listened to.. 

    Thank you for your kind wishes x

  • Hi, 

    I have been where you are, back in July, and i am 31.

    I too got told too it was nothing to worry about but biopsies proved otherwise. Following diagnosis i had genetic testing and MRI scans.

    I was diagnosed with grade 3 cancer so i have now just completed 6 rounds of chemo and will be having surgery in couple of weeks. The chemo I was lucky witj and i sailed through, and i also used the cold cap and have kept most of my hair, noone has ever noticed or commented on my hair being slighlty thinner!

    As all my scans have shown no lymph involvement, it os hoped i wont need radiotherapy buy this will be decided after surgery.

    If i can help in any way or if you have any questions,  im more than happy to help. x

  • Hi, I was told today that i have breast cancer. I am older at nearly 49, but my daughter is only 7. I'm not going anywhere yet, she needs me! 

    Mel

  • Catt, the waiting is horrific. I've never had anxiety in my life but was getting panic attacks. Was awful.

    Strangely today I almost feel relieved that at least I know x

  • Hi my mum have brest Cancer positive she found out in may had surgery in june finish chemo and now radiotherapy she start Talking some pills and she said its make her tired she cry shes sad Angry everything why it happend to our family why we was so happy and now everything change i cant  listen music its Makes me thing what we gonna do without her i cant imagine my life with out her and the worst thing is when the results gonna come its scary im so sad About my mum 

  • Hiya lovey,

    I'm so sorry we now find ourselves on the newly diagnosed part of the forum!

    I, like you, felt calmer once I received the diagnosis - probably since I had been so very anxious during the wait. I definitely went into a very practical / driven mind set - determined to do whatever it takes.

    I have also been extremely positive when telling family and have stressed that it's treatable, low grade and caught early. But yesterday, I had a very difficult appointment to discuss the surgery I wanted, rather than what had been offered, and it broke me! I had a big cry. 

    Today was better and I've now met my breast surgeon. He can't do surgery until first week in Jan. So, it's more waiting and hormone therapy in the meantime. .

    Keep posting and we'll see how we go. 

    Caz x

  • All I know so far is that I an having a lumpectomy 17th Dec. I am having an mri scan on my breasts before as my breast tissue is too dense so you can't even see my lump on the mammogram. They want to check I definitely have nothing else going on. If all clear, then surgery will go ahead. Then the 3 weeks results wait to see what's the plan. At the moment it's looking good for radiotherapy only

  • Hi ladies, I'm sorry you find yourselves here and to hear about your diagnosis. I was diagnosed in March, I'm 43 with 2 young children. For me the diagnosis and the waiting for scans and a treatment plan was by far the worst time, however once I got my plan everything settled. 
     

    I have had 6 cycles of chemo, a mastectomy with Diep reconstruction, I've started tamoxifen and I have radiotherapy in January. I also had my appendix removed before it all started as it showed up as infected on one of the scans. 
     

    Its all doable, the hardest thing is the mental side of things, I've learnt to look forward not back, otherwise I do my head in and would analyse the what ifs, I can't change or influence it so I don't think about it. 
     

    I know it's a worrying time, but you can do this, and there's a lot of support on this forum to help you through. 
     

    big hugs. 
    wl