Hi there ..

So sorry your dad has been given that diagnosis ... it's heartbraking ... but sometimes the Drs know when treatment will cause more symptoms , when they may not get much time too .. but it's giving you time to pack lots of memories into the time he has .. would you really want to see your dad go through so much with chemo ... 

I lost my mum suddenly from a heart attack and I had no chance to even tell her I was so proud to be her daughter... or I loved her one more time .. what I'd have given for one more day,  or even one hour with her ... you have that time I never had ... we all want our parents to be here for ever ...

Share hugs, ask about his life, bet there's lots you don't know .. find out if theres something he still wants to do .. admit your both scared... leave nothing unsaid ... you can pack a lifetime of memories in the time your given ... 

Sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie xx

Hi there, my husband has incurable lung cancer and he's now 74 and all the chemotherapy has left him with numerous problems including chemo induced arthritis, thin skin, susceptible to any bugs as it causes massive damage to your immune system.  So if Dad is doing well they will have looked at quality of life over extending it for a few more months.  Just enjoy the time he has left, 85 is a very good age but I know you want to keep him around for as long as possible.  But he will be the one going through the treatment.  Take care, Carol