My husband has Stage 4 lung cancer

I'm struggling to accept the meaning and implications of Stage 4 Lung Cancer which has travelled to the brain of my husband. I'm just on auto pilot. Hubby has had a one off 20 minute radiation procedure last week on the brain, and tomorrow has his first 5.5hr session of chemotherapy, for the lung, to be repeated every 3 weeks for 4 sessions.  My hubby also suffers with COPD and is 75yrs old, I am 23 years his junior and falling apart not knowing what the future holds, all I can think is it's not good, but nobody will actually commit to tell me any different. Any advice on coping mechanisms and what I can do to help my hubby would be very much appreciated. 

  • Hiya! I’m not in the same situation but I know from going through breast cancer that what I need from my partner is just to be there. To not be sad and not think of what’s going to happen but just to live in the moment.

    i actually feel incredibly sorry for anyone that is having to deal with a family member or partner going through cancer because not only do we need people to stay strong and help it’s also expected that you keep it together.

    you really don’t have to and please remember to take time for yourself be it crying in the bath, speaking to professionals, having a night out with friends etc. You have it so much harder than the person going through cancer and you have my upmost respect xxx