Hi, 

Sorry to hear your story. We are going through the same thing. Just found out my dad has secondary lung / liver cancer after battling 15 years prostate cancer. He finished chemo in June & things were looking good. It's been in his bones for about 2 years but he's getting treatment for that. However last week my parents were told there was no more treatment options. We are just devasted. He c was given steroids to help with fatigue & lack of appetite. His colouring is quite yellow. We have no idea how long he has left as my parents didn't ask the questions they should have but he has been referred to local palliative hospital. Wishing your dad all the best. 

Did they mention any treatment options available to your dad? 

I just dont want him to suffer but looks like its inevitable . Im hooinh we have time too not just weeks . It's so tough isn't it .. sorry for what your going through .

We are still waiting for more tests and then they will discuss that . But it all takes so long. 

My sister has just been diagnosed with secondary bc in the liver. It's hit us all so hard. Still waiting on full biopsy results and to see the oncologist. All we know is it's inoperable, through her whole liver and that it's oestrogen positive. We have no idea on prognosis as yet. My mum and I are struggling to cope with her self destructive behaviour, the continuing drinking, the high anxiety and self medicating on co codamol. All those issues had been going on long before the cancer problems. We lost my dad in 2002 to pancreatic cancer, so this blow is so hard to accept. We all just want to run and keep running and wish it would just go away. The thought of facing up to this makes us all feel sick every day. There's just the three of us, mum and I taking it in turns on 24 care to be around to try and help with her boys and support her but it's so difficult when none of it's good enough. We don't know if it will get worse or better when treatment starts. I almost want to know the prognosis so I can prep myself to help her, mum and the boys. Mum and I are terrified that the drinking will just exhaust her liver and the treatments won't work and we will lose her much quicker than we thought, but we can't get through. Friends turn up bringing bottles of wine and take her to the pub to cheer her up. They mean well, and we can't get through to them the damage it could be doing. But they all get to drop her off and go back home, we have to deal with the aftermath of these sessions.

Heading back to consultant on Wed for MRI results as had further tests to see if the grade 0 cancer from 4 years ago has returned, despite the all clear again 5 months ago. Then it's another weeks wait to see the oncologist and hopefully a plan.

I feel all your pain, sometimes it's just so overwhelming but we have to carry on. I'm juggling the routine with my job still, they've been great but every thought of cancer makes me feel sick, and struggling to get through a day in the office. The guilt hits me hard then when I almost mourn the life I had before. 

It's hard to know prognosis, the internet is terrible and every single person is different. Health and lifestyle prob also plays a part somewhere. I wish you well and as much time with your loved one as possible.