Hi there ..

Unfortunately no one can tell you what will happen on her appointment... we'd all like to know before we go, but there's no way of knowing ... we've all been there, every time we go for tests or results .. it's scary but there's no way round the wait ..

Give your partner some space ... my son panicked when I was diagnosed .. but his wife sat us down and said no more panicking... no more what ifs... well deal with everything as and when it comes up and well do it together... and they did .. that was the best advice we got ... brought us down to earth again ..

Your partner probly is trying to be strong for his mum .. and some men find it really hard showing emotions and sharing feelings .. so step back .. just tell him your there if and when he needs you .. then it will take the pressure off him to talk .. just hold their hands .. and go with the flow .. I'm sure if you step back a pace, he may let you in when he feels ready .. just remember, you can't make it better or go away .. it's a long old journey .. so hold on in there .., but you sound amazingly caring ... 

Sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie xx