Thank you so much I feel reassured knowing the process in case it’s not good news. I am in more of a positive mood having thought of things logically and am now making sure I eat enough and drink. How have you all dealt with family/friends my friends and partner his family are all so positive and strong but my dads going he can’t cope with it and sending constant messages if I’m ready for knackers yard he can’t stop crying etc it’s really got me down at Times x

Hi  

my family and friends have been great and always telling me to be positive and asking how I am. They understand that sometimes I cry and then in the next breath I’m kind of ok talking about it. Maybe you need to mention something to your dad that he’s affecting you? He’s obviously worried about you but just doesn’t  quite know the right way of showing it.

what happens next? Have yoy still got to go Thursday to talk about these results? 

thats strange the hospital haven’t rung you to talk about it or even ask you to go in and talk with the consultant. How do you feel? Sorry for sounding stupid but what does U3 mean? This anything to do with stage/ grade? 

I would say the pain in your back is tension. I think the body gives us signs that we are stressed. When I first found out I had migraines and tention headache ms. They always use to be on one side so I convinced myself it was somewhere else. They have no gone and now I’m gettingvtension in my throat and feel like it’s closing up and struggle to swallow sometimes. 

Thank you for replying I have no idea I googled and it said it means unsure it’s in lymph nodes but lesion I have in my boob is most likely cancer it’s just made me so stressed and upset and panicking I don’t really know what the protocol is for a lump that big? I thought it was relatively small. I have pain below my ribs that worsens when I’m stressed doctor said it’s indegestion but now I’m overly concerned with that along with a hard lump I need crating in my chest doctor also thinks it’s bone. Sorry for rambling I’m utterly terrified and keep looking st my kids and crying 

i still have to fo in on Thursday but I don’t understand why they can’t doscuss on phone after my letter which basically confirms it just makes me more anxious xx

Strange they have sent you a letter but not spoke to you. Either way they will explain on Thursday what it all means. If it helps my lump was originally measured at 23mm by MRI then when they took it out it measured smaller. Hopefully this is the case with you. Either way they when it was measured bigger they were planning on taking it out. 

Yes you sound stressed and that has a funny affect on our bodies. Wait and see what they say but until the. Your mind will go into overdrive. Try to stop yourself if you can until you know more. 

I think with anything like this we all think the worst which is totally understandable, I still do it now! I can hear a song on the radio or watch a film and relate it to me. I’m abit of a crier anyway so this has made me worse. If you need to cry just do it, it’s a worrying time and need to let out. 

Please don’t think you’re alone, we’re all in this bloody boat and can’t wait to get off!!!! If you need reassurance just come on here there’s bound to be someone who feels exactly the same x

Thank you so much for replying I’ve had a poor nights sleep sleep but can feel me self tensing up sometimes don’t don’t feel myself doing it. Was surgery the first point of call for you? Is a MRI normally he first step afterwards I’ve convinced myself I’m losing weight as well but I know stress is a major factor thank you again for replying x

It’s ok, I know what it was like when you just needed someone to ask. Try not to google anything. I stopped myself lots of times as it just worries you and there is so many variations to BC that none that will fit with yours as everyone’s is diff if you know what I mean.

I had:

BC conformed a week after biopsy

He then sent me for an MRI two days later got the results from this the following Wednesday. This picked up something else in my other breast so had ultra sound and another biopsy. He said regardless of these results it wouldn’t hold up surgery and if it was something he could do them at the same time.

Then went back the following week to talk surgery and  to get extra biopsy’s results. 

Following day had pre op and then booked in a week later  for day surgery. 

Had two week wait for pathology results on the cancer to see if margins and lymph nodes were clear. My sample was then sent away for an oncotype test 

www.breastcancer.org/.../oncotype_dx

The nurse rang me last wed (week and half later) to say they recommended chemo. 

Currently awaiting appointment with oncology to talk treatment. 

Hope that helps. Literally every week something has happened or waiting.

Stress is just something that comes with it, I found that I would be relieved when things were done (like surgery) but then I worry about what’s to come. It’s natural to be like that. 

Xx

Thank you for your reply how many rounds of chemo will you be going through I have some support of family and friends whose relatives have been through the same just trying to stay positive is really hard st the moment. How did your surgery go? Chemo is like insurance to make sure everything is gone ? X

I don’t know yet, need to speak to the oncologist to see what’s happening. Staying positive is hard, I know that but then I think we’ll if I have got more bad news to come need to save the worrying for then.

I think once surgery is done you’ll feel a lot better as it’s out! Surgery was ok, just uncomfortable especially the lymph node scare (as I’ve got two. One there and another for the actual lump) it’s right where you bra sits. I recommend a sports bra. I wore mine for about 2 weeks after. It’s healed well but still rubs sometimes. The day after I think I thought I was ok but actually started to feel tired and unwell so had to go back to bed. So don’t rush the day after.  I couldn’t lift so couldn’t lift my daughter up or feed her for about a week and half which was tough. Needed someone here for the first week and a half to help as you don’t realise how much you do with a baby. My husband had a week off. You’ll feel pretty numb too in your arm. I’m still numb in some places even 5 weeks after. 

Thank you that’s made things a little easier what to expect It’s hard not to worry but I’m trying to get on today may give the breast nurses a ring later for a chat. You don’t realise with a baby I have 3 I can’t remember when they were baby babies thank you for taking the time to reply to me I appreciate it even though it’s awful we are all in the same boat x