hi

Welcome to the forum, I’m sorry to hear about the reason you are here, but you’ve come to the right place for support, the men and women on here are amazing. 

So how you are feeling is completely normal, I was diagnosed in March with bc and felt like my world had turned upside down, I’m 43 with 2 young children. The waiting is the worst bit, but one lady on here said to me worrying won’t xhange anything, and to keep myself busy. Also stay away from google, it’s inaccurate and will always give you the worst case scenario. 

The mind is a powerful thing, I felt pains elsewhere thinking it had spread and it hadn’t. 

If it is confirmed as bc, once you have your treatment plan in place you will feel more in control and you can focus on getting better and kicking it’s ***. And we will all be here to help you through. 

Let me know when your results appointment is and if you have any questions or need a chat I’m here. You are stronger than you think. 

Sending hugs. 

WL

Thank you so much for your reply how are you getting on ? 

I try to think like like that but my dad keeps saying he can’t cope with anything else etc my partners told me to get my boxing gloves on lol I’ve just got a constant knot in my tummy and feel really sick but earlier yesterday I was fine ‍♀️ X

Hi hun 

thank you so much for the reply I had already convinced myself too. Just from the it’s norhing from the consultant to a biopsy in the scan room then a it doesn’t look benin scared me to death I’m a bag of nerves struggling to eat pain in my chest and tender underneath so convinced myself it has spread and I’ve lost weight. I had no lump under my arm  and just keep looking at my babies wanting to cry sorry for rambling on I know once I get results and a plan in place I will feel better x

I think having a positive attitude is half the battle,you will have days when you are feeling low, but as long as you can pick yourself up again.  Your partner sounds like a good one. My hubby has been amazing, a motivator and also just takes it when I loose my **** for no reason.

I am doing ok, finished 6 rounds of chemo 3 weeks ago,so I’m recovery mode before my op, seeing the surgeon again next week. I’ve put weight on so need to try and get some off, but walking up stairs feels like I’m climbing a mountain at the minute. My lump has responded , gone from over 8cm to nothing which I’m delighted with. 

Keep in touch,when is your results appointment? 

Wl

That is amazing bet your so pleased to have accomplished that when is your surgery? Wishing you all the luck in the world for it

 Is it common to have chemo before surgery ?

nk idea I’m playing a waiting game at the moment but my beautiful babies fighting with each other over toys is keeping me sane at the moment xxx 

Don’t know yet when it will be. I think early November as I need a few more weeks to recover from chemo. We haven’t yet agreed which surgery I am having yet, I’m hoping for a DIEP but may end up with an LD flap instead, either way both are good options. 

 The outcome is the same whether you have it before or after surgery. I had it before because of the size. I think anything over 5cm you have chemo before at the hospital where I am at. It was also close to my chest wall so would have had to remove muscle if they had done the surgery first. 

Kids are a good distraction. Mine are at school. 

Wl

I’m not so sure of size at moment or if lymph node involvement and of what their policies are at that hospital. I have no idea about surgeries and different ones may do some reading later. They are my oldest is having a day off as he overheard me and my partner talking so got very upset bless him x

Hi  

I’m 34 and was diagnosed with bc on the 14th Aug. I’m currently on maternity with a 7 month old so awful timing. I was and still am devastated. Before I had my op I was constantly having headaches and convinced it was in my head. I then went for an MRI so they could get a clearer picture of the size.  I had a lumpectomy and removal of the first lymph node on the 3rd sept. I had my results and it was staged 0/1 as it hadn’t spread but was graded 3 do pretty fast growing. My lump was then sent off to America for an oncotype test where they grade the cancer out of 100 and the predict the likelihood of it reoccurring. 

Hospital have just rung and said my score was 24/100 so slightly higher than the low level but because of my age they recommend chemo. I’m devastated again and so scared of what that will entail. 

Anyone else worried about chemo? I’m so scared. 

Please don’t think anything is silly as I think your mind goes into overdrive. I’m still convinced it’s somewhere else and now having lump feelings in my throat. 

I’m sorry to hear your also going grouch it and such awful timing with a little baby your mind goes into overdrive it has wih my children sadly youngest two wouldn’t remember me my eldest may that breaks me. I’m having back pain well aches but do have a cold so am hoping it’s that. When do you start your chemo? I’m still waiting for my results x