Hi iam new to this so please bare with me ..  My son was told at a meeting yesterday hes cancer was incurable . My heart has been ripped apart.  Hes 30 yrs old . He long term suffer off crohns disease.. so when he took ill 6 wks ago we were expecting was hes crohns again. But unfortually that wasnt the case .. they told him he had bowel cancer and with a bit chemo and remival the bowl he should be ok... then they done Ct which showed abnormaties in the uretha just a tiny 2cm spawn but this was causein a blockage so to take pressure off hes kidney they fitted a stent . Whith that the took another biopsy .. taking i to account when they done the bowl scope they took 60 biopsy only 5 came back seeded ..   That not the off the nitemare  he  then had pet scan ... then had a scan on hes lymph node in hes beck to which then they took another biopsy to see were was all orginated from.. this had taken a long 6 wks ... and yesterday we was  told my lovely son has the C in hes lymph nodes .. and specks in part off hes bones .. the biopsy reveled it orginated  from the bowl (which they were going to remove )  what angers me is they are saying hes advanced and carnt be cured .. But still havent even started treatment yet !!! .... and making him wait yet another 2wks .. before he even gets to me neurogist to discuss treatment.. because they are testing on hes cells to see if he is applicable for a bioligical drug aswell as chemo .... .. Are family has been torn apart and i feel they are giving up before they have even started ....Please anyone who can give me some advice would be much aporeaciated because right now . Am lost . Sorry about the long paragraph .  XX