Hi Boohoo,

I'm very sorry to read about your family member. I understand there can be some sensitivities around talking about these matters - perhaps try talking to them and they might be more willing to open up or share than they seem. Sometimes people prefer to be asked questions, although this of course depends on your family member.

As I'm sure you're aware we can't answer those questions for you. Try not to let shyness get in the way of asking - you could try to broach it with them and it will quickly be clear whether they do or don't want to speak about it. It may also be a matter of finding out things in time rather than straight away.

Wishing you all the best,

Ben
Cancer Chat Moderator

He died on the 8th January and his funeral was today.